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Subject: Same WL problem as before
Date Posted: 4/2/2009 9:51 PM ET
Member Since: 2/23/2009
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Hey guys,

   You may remember a few weeks ago I posted a discussion about a member who has one of my books on her WL  and after I indicated I could mail it, she sent me a PM saying the book was accidentally requested and could I cancel it.  I obliged her request even though I had already wrapped the book and was on my way to mail it.   Many of you indicated that she must have had her WL set to auto request for this book and that if she didn't want it she should change her settings.   Well, I PM her about this several weeks ago and asked her very nicely if she would edit her WL settings for this book.  No response.   When I checked her WL, you guessed it, the book was still there.  I had hoped she would have at least taken it off auto request, but apparently not, because  I re-posted the book a few minutes ago and guess what...............the book went back to her!  I immediately PM her and again asked very nicely if she would cancel the request if she doesn't want the book.   I know there are at least 2 other people who do want this book.   I hope she will respond this time.  If not I think this is very selfish and unthoughtful to keep others from getting a book they really want.  Am I wrong to feel this way?  Any thoughts and suggestions will be greatly appreciated!

Andrea

Date Posted: 4/2/2009 9:57 PM ET
Member Since: 4/25/2007
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I'd make her cancel if she doesn't want the book.  If she does not cancel the request, then send her the book.  She obviously didn't accidentally request the book if she's back at #1 on the WL.  Tell her if she does not want the book, then she needs to cancel.  Maybe let the request sit for a few days before accepting and then choose the latest mailing date to give her ample time to cancel that request.  She can do so up until you print the wrapper for the book.

Date Posted: 4/2/2009 10:14 PM ET
Member Since: 2/23/2009
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Thanks, Sarah, I will follow your advice.   I was so hoping though that she had fixed her settings and that someone who truly wanted this book was going to get it.  I was so mad when I saw it was her name again!  Wonder why she ignored me the first time I asked her to change it?  Oh well, thanks for letting me vent! 

Andrea

Date Posted: 4/2/2009 11:45 PM ET
Member Since: 12/9/2007
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If there is a WL on this then there are others wanting the book.  I'd try again to get her to cancel, but if shewon't for some strange reason there's nothing you can do to make her.  You might want to send an inquiry about this to the PBS teamand ask that they cancel it so you can move on to the next person.  I'd do this only after this happens again.  Non-response to these PM's seem like she's not participating well.  You can check your BIR to see if it is indeed on auto-R (or at least someone is) by looking at the title on your BIR (you did rate it and add it didn't you?).  I'd wait as long as possible, too even though I know you'd like to trade it now.  If or when you contact the PBS team - include the PMS to this person and tell the PBS team that you'd like to move to the next wisher so that your book won't get moved from the WL to just a listed book.

Ruth

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Date Posted: 4/3/2009 12:21 AM ET
Member Since: 8/28/2008
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Date Posted: 4/3/2009 10:05 AM ET
Member Since: 10/26/2006
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Honestly, I wouldn't have PM'd her the second time - if she can't be bothered to change that setting, well, she deserves to use up a credit on a book she doesn't want. It's not like she didn't get notification that the setting was like that. She is preventing other people from receiving a book they presumably DO want.

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 10:51 AM ET
Member Since: 6/21/2007
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Date Posted: 4/3/2009 12:43 PM ET
Member Since: 2/23/2009
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I like the way y'all think!  Personally I am sick and tired of this person!  She is selfishly preventing others from getting this book.  I really think  the problem is that she doesn't log-in on a regular basis and therefore is not aware of what's happening with her account.  I would think though it would be so easy to edit her WL settings.  I just wonder if she does other people like she does me? 

I think if I do decide to mail it anyway, I will do what some of you suggested and send it delivery confirmation.  I hate to have negative feelings towards someone, but this person is really trying my patience.    Thanks again to all of you for your help and sympathetic ears!

Hope everyone has a great weekend!!!!

Andrea

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 12:51 PM ET
Member Since: 10/23/2005
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You were very nice to cancel it the first time. Since she never removed it from her WL nor cared enough to change the setting on it, I would wait a few days then go ahead and mail it also. I would take Jeri's advise and use PBS Postage, You will get your credit whether or not they mark it received.

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 3:27 PM ET
Member Since: 12/9/2007
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Unless this person has limited her PBS emails - she gets notice of PM's to her even if she doesn't come log in.  Maybe she doesn't read the PBS emails or has them blocked, but either way - it's rude.

Ruth

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 4:08 PM ET
Member Since: 7/12/2006
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Now I don't know if this would work or not, but while you have her request for the book, could you post the book again so it goes to the second person in line, then cancel her request? Does that make sense?

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 4:30 PM ET
Member Since: 2/23/2009
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That's an interesting idea, Lori,  As a fairly new member I don't know if this can be done or not.  Sure would solve my problem though!  Can some of you more experienced members answer this?  Thanks!

Andrea

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 4:32 PM ET
Member Since: 2/13/2007
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I don't think the system will allow you to post a 2nd copy of a book on your bookshelf until that first book is mailed. Correct me if I am wrong!

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 4:46 PM ET
Member Since: 4/7/2007
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I think you are right Sally, but it probably be best to post this to another member's wishlist directly.

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 4:47 PM ET
Member Since: 5/6/2008
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I read in another forum that a few people are having trouble turning their auto-request off.

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 5:50 PM ET
Member Since: 12/9/2007
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It has to be marked mailed before you can add it to your bookshelf again.  How would you know who was 2nd in line?

Ruth

Date Posted: 4/3/2009 6:35 PM ET
Member Since: 6/21/2007
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Date Posted: 4/3/2009 10:38 PM ET
Member Since: 8/23/2007
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If you do send it to her make sure to use at least the PBS DC. If you use DC from Paypal or the post office you won't get your credit if she refuses to mark it received.

I would contact PBS, tell them what happened and ask them to turn off her autorequest or make her delete it or something.

Date Posted: 4/4/2009 9:44 AM ET
Member Since: 2/23/2009
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Hi everyone,

   Problem resolved!  She did finally cancel the request!  My faith has been restored!  Already got another request for it and now I know it's going to someone who wants it.  Thanks again to all of you.  Y'all are the best!

   Hope everyone has a terrific weekend!

   Andrea