I think people should be cautious when looking at this book. It is NOT biblical and has some things in it that are very contradictory to the Bible. For instance, it claims homosexuals are genetically disposed to be that way and it is not a choice, which I believe the Bible condemns homosexuality, so therefore they were not made by the Creator that way...It also implies that sex between two consenting adults who are committed is okay and sex outside marriage is wrong according to the Bible...
Be cautious when you see the title because it implies it is "Christian" oriented when actually it seems to be more his opinion than biblical.
Considered one of the definitive statements on sex and sexuality from a Christian perspective, Sex for Christians offers frank yet compassionate discussion that is at once refreshingly open-minded and strongly biblical.
Broad-ranging and direct, the books begins with a theological overview of human sexuality- its created goodness, its sinful distortion, and its redeemed potential. Lewis Smedes then treats specific sexual issues for single and married persons, presenting plain-spoken yet responsible perspectives on such things as erotic fantasies, petting and adultery. This revised edition also features an extensive new introduction by Smedes that brings his original work to bear on pressing issues today- AIDS and talk of "safe sex", cohabitation, homosexuality, and the need to develop Christian strategies regarding sex.
Following two decades of social development since this book first appeared, Smedes now presents an even clearer statement of the bible's moral standards regarding our sexuality. His attempt to present "a Christian perspective for a truly human sexual life" results in a sexuality that,within a biblical perspective, is a liberating as it is limiting.
This book is a must for any counselor or pastor or youth minister or anyone else working in ministry! Smedes' insights are wonderfully down to earth, realistic and biblically-based. I am a "single again" Christian who was completely clueless about physical relationships and intimacy when I married and, as we had intimacy problems for the first 8 years of our marriage, I had some bitterness toward the church for not giving me anything to go by as a young person except "Don't do IT! Until you're married, then you're free!" There is SO much in-between those two extremes and Smedes' lays out bluntly, but tactfully so many areas I wanted/needed to know about. I feel like this book is already helping me to understand my sexuality as part of my whole Christian person and I feel confident that it will make dating SO much less frustrating and guilt-producing and confusing than the first time around. If you have ever had any intimacy issues or have teenagers, I strongly suggest this book. He covers masturbation and petting, but also covers some very good insights on sexuality in general and marriage in particular. Good all-around book for Christians to read!