Ohh I used to have this book! I don't know what happened to it! I thought it was very good. It explains WHY parents (or any other adults who raised you) do what they do. So it gives you some understanding of what's going on in their head that caused them to be mean, selfish, and/or irresponsible.
Excellent advice for abuse victims.This wonderful book validates the very real abuse scars left on abuse victims without laying the additional burden of "you HAVE to forgive" or "Just get over it" or "simply stop being a victim/feeling sorry for yourself" or even worse, "why dwell on it? That was years ago" that so many abuse victims get from well-meaning friends and relatives. Also exposes the many too-simplistic forms of "therapy" that survivors are often confronted with: religion as a cure-all, forgiveness.... Her advice for true healing is practical and a welcome effort to those so scarred by their childhoods.
In this self-help guide, Susan Forward, Ph.D., draws on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patters of your relationship with your parents--and discover a new world of self-confidence, inner strength and emotional independence.
Who are toxic parents?
The Verbal Abusers
The Physical Abusers
The Sexual Abusers
You are not to blame for what happened to you as a child--but you can do something about it now!
I thought that this book gave some really helpful insights as well as tips on how to deal with toxic parents. It was not a book about blame but really a book about recovery and provides realistic steps on how to move forward in your relationship with your toxic parent.
All parents fall short from time to time. But Susan Forward pulls no punches when it comes to those whose deficiencies cripple their children emotionally. Her brisk, unreserved guide to overcoming the stultifying agony of parental manipulation--from power trips to guilt trips and all other killers of self worth--will help deal with the pain of childhood and move beyond the frustrating relationship patterns learned at home. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
A dynamic, powerful, hard-hitting book. It offers tremendous hope as well as understanding. It could truly be a lifesaver.
Abigail Van Buren, Dear Abby