It is one thing to find and expose some of the sources of pain within the context of one's life; it is another to suggest ways to change information into a tool that one can use to move forward.
Ms. Golomb does the former very well in the first half of her book, Trapped in the Mirror. Unfortunately, as with many therapists and bookd, there are few tools to actually transform one's self in the second half of the book, leading the reader through stories about trekking through India and Tibet with a sherpa to find herself. Self help is riddled with such books. Define the problem and leave you hanging while the author tells you how they came to terms, often contradicting the the statements made at the beginning.
Uh... Seriously? India?
I closed the book at the point when she wrote, "The child of Narcissistic Parents must heal in whatever way she can..."
You don't say?
That being said, the first half of the book is completely worth the read. Absolutely worth going through, so long as you know that in the end it is still up to you to fix it. You may have lots of aha! moments.
Don't buy it. Swap it or check it out at the library.
Author's experiences weigh a little heavily on this good book about the aftermath of a childhood dominated by a narcissist. She provides concrete examples of how childhood affects the adult, and how her subjects recover (or don't) from their experiences.
A bit overlong towards the end. A very informative and insightful look at narcissism, how it can pass down through generations and how to start breaking the cycle.
This book is very well written and thought provoking. It is surprisingly difficult to put down. The author has written in a clear and easy to follow way with the use of telling stories of various individuals who have grown up with a narcissistic parent and the many different ways that this has manifested itself in the adult life of those individuals. As a therapist I have found it helpful in better understanding where many of my clients are coming from. As an individual always in pursuit of personal growth, I have found it very enlightening.
Excellently written. You may have Borderline Personality Disorder if You... Easy read, I read it in one night.