Does the notation "accepted" mean that the person has clicked the "I can send this book", but if it's still saying "Waiting for Member", they haven't clicked that button yet?  If so, why do both of them have notions about the "member having until xxx/xxx/xxx date to mark this book as sent to you"?   If the notation "waiting for member" means they haven't "accepted" the order, shouldn't that notation say something like "member has until XX/XXX/XXX to accept this order"?

I find it all rather confusing.

Right, if it says waiting for member they have not clicked the "I can mail this book" button yet. 

ETA:  you can use the Requested on time and date to see how long the member has before the book rolls over to the next member.  They have 5 days to accept

Accepted without a "Will mail by" date means that the person clicked on "I can mail in 2 days." They still have longer than 2 days to mark it mailed, which is why the hover date is more than 2 days.

Waiting for Member means that they haven't accepted the book yet.

Waiting for Member means that they haven't accepted the book yet.

Ok, I get it.  But it would be a lot less confusing if the hover message under the exclamation point said "Member has until XX to accept this order" rather than "Member has until XXX to mark this book mailed to you".  Right now the messages under the exclamation point make me think that they are waiting for the member to mark the book "mailed" not to accept the order.

Kate -- I've actually always thought the same thing.  It feels a little counterintuative, like a step is being skipped.

I requested a book and my request was accepted and my credit was taken ; I kept waiting for the message that my book was being mailed and five days passed and thesender was extended time to mail. Until 11PM last night .A nd when I got up this morning they had extended it again until the 28th, so I cancelled my book order. Sooo frustrating , I really want this book. What are the chances that if I request it again it will go to that same person that could not mail the book to begin with? Why would they keep extending his grace period and not set me up with another member?

BIG DUH!! They did set me up with another member and so,,, a date change,,,I should have realized that this was new , but there was nothing to indicate that the old sender was out and that we were beginning again with someone new.

Fara--
I think your request had rolled over to a new person when the first couldn't send it. Did you actually check the name of the person (or your transaction archive) before you cancelled the order?

From the help center:

There are three steps to the sending process (acceptance - printing - mailing).

• Acceptance
  • If you see "Waiting for Member"
    • this means the sender has not yet agreed to send the book (he or she has 5 days to respond).
  • If you see "Accepted" (with NO "will mail-by" date specified)
    • this means that the sender has agreed to send the book by clicking "I can mail in the next 2 days", and has 5 days from the date of acceptance in which to mark the book mailed.  (The deadline is at the end of the fifth day.)
  • If you see "Accepted" ("will mail-by" date specified)
    • this means that the sender has agreed to send the book by clicking "I can mail later", and has until 2 days after the mail-by date shown to mark the book mailed.  (The deadline is at the end of the second day.)

Cozette:

I got all that about "accepted" and understand it.  What I don't understand is why it says "waiting for member" and still it has the "has until XX to mail the package to you".  To me that makes no sense and gives the impression that the member has agreed to send the book.