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From the jacket:
[This book] addresses the odyssey of transcending a painful and seemingly hopeless mother-daughter relationship. Drawing on over 100 interviews with daughters and years of research, it is written for that group of women--whether mothers or daughters--whose extremely painful childhood relationships with their mothers skew their adulthoods in ways they may not even recognize. Such women often play out their dissatisfaction with husbands and lovers, coworkers and friends--and especially with their own children.
These daughters frequently are unaware that it is possible not only to resolve an unhappy mother-daughter bond, but also to understand their mothers and even feel empathy with them. That understanding may lead to real friendship--or at least to an affectionate truce.
Victoria Secunda is an author, journalist, and lecturer whose work has appeared in major magazines...The author of four previous books, she has appeared on Oprah Winfrey, Today, Sally Jessy Raphael, and numerous radio programs.