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The Bitch in the House: 26 Women Tell the Truth About Sex, Solitude, Work, Motherhood, and Marriage
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The Bitch in the House: 26 Women Tell the Truth About Sex, Solitude, Work, Motherhood, and Marriage
Author: Cathi Hanauer (Editor)

Book Information
Publisher: Perennial
Book Type: Paperback
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ISBN-13: 9780060936464 - ISBN-10: 0060936460
Publication Date: 9/16/2003
Pages: 304


Other Versions of this Book: Hardcover

Book Description:
Virginia Woolf introduced us to the "Angel in the House", now prepare to meet... The Bitch In the House.

Women today have more choices than at any time in history, yet many smart, ambitious, contemporary women are finding themselves angry, dissatisfied, stressed out. Why are they dissatisfied? And what do they really want? These questions form the premise of this passionate, provocative, funny, searingly honest collection of original essays in which twenty-six women writers -- ranging in age from twenty-four to sixty-five, single and childless or married with children or four times divorced -- invite readers into their lives, minds, and bedrooms to talk about the choices they've made, what's working, and what's not.

With wit and humor, in prose as poetic and powerful as it is blunt and dead-on, these intriguing women offer details of their lives that they've never publicly revealed before, candidly sounding off on:

* The difficult decisions and compromises of living with lovers, marrying, staying single and having children

* The perpetual tug of war between love and work, family and career

* The struggle to simultaneously care for ailing parents and a young family

* The myth of co-parenting

* Dealing with helpless mates and needy toddlers

* The constrictions of traditional women's roles as well as the cliches of feminism

* Anger at laid-back live-in lovers content to live off a hardworking woman's checkbook

* Anger at being criticized for one's weight

* Anger directed at their mothers, right and wrong

* And, well, more anger...



"This book was born out of anger," begins Cathi Hanauer, but the end result is an intimate sharing of experience that will move, amuse, and enlighten. The Bitch in the House is a perfect companion for your students as they plot a course through the many voices of modern feminism. This is the sound of the collective voice of successful women today-in all their anger, grace, and glory.



From The Bitch In the House:



"I believed myself to be a feminist, and I vowed never to fall into the same trap of domestic boredom and servitude that I saw my mother as being fully entrenched in; never to settle for a life that was, as I saw it, lacking independence, authority, and respect." -E.S. Maduro, page 5



"Here are a few things people have said about me at the office: "You're unflappable." "Are you ever in a bad mood?" Here are things people - okay, the members of my family - have said about me at home: "Mommy is always grumpy." "Why are you so tense?" "You're too mean to live in this house and I want you to go back to work for the rest of your life!" -Kristin van Ogtrop, page 161



"I didn't want to be a bad mother I wanted to be my mother - safe, protective, rational, calm - without giving up all my anger, because my anger fueled me." -Elissa Schappell, page 195

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Top Member Book Reviews

Michele S. (luluinphilly) wrote on 2/5/2009...

5 member(s) found this review helpful.

Yuck! I thought I was going to like this book and read only the chapters that pertained to me like sex, solitude, and work. Well ... all it was was women bitching! Yes, truly bitching. It got to be annoying after a while. And a little bit disturbing. For example, Sarah Miller wrote a little ditty about meeting her boyfriend Mike. She doesn't actually meet him as stalk him. They talk but he's obviously not interested but she persues him. After a few uneventful dates, she suggests moving in together! He is unemployed, spends all day napping, and playing video games. He doesn't contribute to anything and when Sarah mentions this, he whines how he can't afford his own place, that she's putting too much pressure on him, blah, blah, blah. But, after about another week, they decide to get married! And this little essay was in the front of the book! I scanned and read a few interesting pieces such as "Houseguest Hell." This was about an Indian woman who feels obligated to go all out when she has visitors from India. I completely understand how you want to impress your guests but Chitra finally realized how to push do-it-yourself tourism and Indian take-out. This book is not for everyone.

Kecia R. (randomelement) wrote on 5/30/2005...

5 member(s) found this review helpful.

When I first bought this book I held off reading it. I thought it would be a book full of stories about angry women and the things that set them off. Instead I found wonderful stories about the many events in a woman's life and the multliple ways of dealing with them.
I have seen myself in some of these stories, and had nothing in common with others. No matter what the circumstance I enjoyed each story!

Michelle F. wrote on 4/21/2007...

4 member(s) found this review helpful.

Great book! Most women will find themselves in here somewhere.

Jayne W. (jaynew) wrote on 12/28/2006...

3 member(s) found this review helpful.

hysterical account of essays about life as a modern women. I LOVED IT.

Heather H. (Hennemonger) wrote on 10/27/2009...

2 member(s) found this review helpful.

The title of this book should have given me a few clues to the contents. There were many good reviews as well as several recommendations from other readers that assisted in my decision to pick it up. As a young, conservative, Christian woman I was very upset by several of the short stories. There were two stories that I did somewhat enjoy, however, on a whole, the book was against many of my morals and beliefs. I cherish marriage, and believe that while it does have its difficulties, that does not warrant infidelity. Our house has its share of “bitch” moments, but never once would any of these situations come into play in not only my life, but of those which I associate myself with. I did not laugh; I did not find any of it funny. To be honest, it broke my heart. The idea that children are living in these homes, and that wives are not only putting up with these things, but are embracing them as a way of life was upsetting to say the least. If you are looking for a real-to-life book with laughs try “nap time is the new happy hour”. If you are looking for a book without morals this one is for you.

Laura H. wrote on 8/15/2008...

2 member(s) found this review helpful.

I loved this book - I recommended it to many, many people. Well rounded, intelligent and insightful.

Heidi A. wrote on 2/1/2007...

2 member(s) found this review helpful.

This was an interesting book--challenges the notion that women are supposed to be "nice" all the time.

Colleen O. (CT1Colleen) wrote on 8/20/2007...

1 member(s) found this review helpful.

This book is filled with anger. Enjoy is not the word I would use with this book, however I feel that I learned something about my fellow sisters.

Rhonda O. (RhondaO) wrote on 5/11/2007...

1 member(s) found this review helpful.

It was a good read!

Shirley O. wrote on 3/24/2007...

1 member(s) found this review helpful.

painfully truthful... I know, now that I am "the bitch in the house"


Please Rate these Book Reviews

Desiree (earthlovinretromama) - Eureka, CA wrote on 3/24/2009...


Ive read it several times, owned and loaned it too, never get it back though! Very interesting perspectives from very different women. I love this book... I hope that you will too.

Sarah M. (smyksin) wrote on 3/16/2009...


Honest accounts from female writers about their lives, marriages, children, and their joys/fears. Very frank - and enjoyable.

R. S. (vinneboombah) wrote on 1/9/2006...


Recommended by another and sent to me as a gift. I didn't read it so can't comment.


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