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Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
 
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples
Author: Harville Hendrix Ph.D.

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Publisher: Perennial
Book Type: Paperback
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ISBN-13: 9780060972929 - ISBN-10: 0060972920
Publication Date: 2/1990
Pages: 320


Other Versions of this Book: Audio Cassette, Audio CD (Abridged), Hardcover, Paperback

Book Description:
When Harville Hendrix writes about relationships, he discusses them not just as an educator and a therapist, but as a man who has himself been through a failed marriage. Hendrix felt the sting of his divorce intensely because he believed it signaled not only his failure as a husband but also his failure as a couples counselor. Investigating why his marriage dissolved led him to start looking into the psychology of love. Marriage, he ultimately discovered, is the "practice of becoming passionate friends."

As a result of his research, Hendrix created a therapy he calls Imago Relationship Therapy. In it, he combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, and Gestalt therapy, to name just a few. He expounds upon this approach in Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. His purpose in writing the book, he says, is "to share with you what I have learned about the psychology of love relationships, and to help you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship."

Divided into three sections, the book covers "The Unconscious Marriage," which details a marriage in which the remaining desires and behavior of childhood interfere with the current relationship; "The Conscious Marriage," which shows a marriage that fulfils those childhood needs in a positive manner; and a 10-week "course in relationship therapy, " which gives detailed exercises for you and your partner to follow in order to learn how to "replace confrontation and criticism ... with a healing process of mutual growth and support." The text is occasionally dry and technical; however, the information provided is valuable, the case studies are interesting, and the exercises are revealing and helpful. By utilizing his program, Hendrix hopes you too will be able to solve your marital difficulties without the expense of a therapist.

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Top Member Book Reviews

Denise H. (DeniseH) wrote on 3/10/2007...

2 member(s) found this review helpful.

This is a great book for couples whether they feel they need to work on their relationship or not. It was interesting and well-written.

Anthoney D. (AntGiant3000) - Pittston wrote on 11/23/2006...

2 member(s) found this review helpful.

Helpful for ALL relationship types.

Matthew R. wrote on 8/29/2005...

2 member(s) found this review helpful.

to help transform a relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship AND how to become passionate friends

Mary F. wrote on 2/23/2007...

1 member(s) found this review helpful.

Every couple would benefit from this book

Emily M. (jemorgan) wrote on 7/10/2005...

1 member(s) found this review helpful.

This is a great book for couples!

Tracy M. (tracymar) wrote on 3/19/2005...

1 member(s) found this review helpful.

Hendrix's books are the best out there for couples. This one is no exception.


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Gayle B. wrote on 2/9/2009...


Very insightful

Cynthia J. (cynthia13) wrote on 11/28/2008...


From the back cover of the book: Harvelle Hendrix, Ph.D., has more than 20 years' experience as an educator and therapist. He specializes in working with couples in private practices, teaching marital therapy to therapists, and conducting couples workshops across the country. Dr. Hendrix is the founder/director of the Institute of Relationship Therapy based in Dallas and New York City.

Its not a text book but was used in a psyche class I took a few years ago on Committed Relationships. An interesting book for anyone who wants to understand their relationships better, and not necessarily just for people who are in a relationship that has hit a rough patch.

Joalice M. (Joalice) wrote on 5/15/2006...


classic

Mary Ann S. wrote on 1/11/2006...


3 stars


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