From the authors of What Every Man Should Know About the "New Woman" comes this guide for those who are afraid of committed relationships. The authors are not therapists; their advice is based on insight gleaned from interviews rather than clinical experience or psychological research. Carter and Sokol spent eight years interviewing men and women about their relationships to find anxieties, issues, and behavioral patterns common to people who can't commit. Written in a nonjudgmental, nontechnical style, their book is divided into three sections: identifying fears that undermine commitment, facing them, and managing them. Examples and diagnostic and directive lists make this book easy to read. There is something here for every personality type, and even the committed will recognize some of their anxieties.
I bought this book to help me understand a couple of commitphobes I'd been involved with, and was startled to start recognizing myself as a passive commitphobe! Seriously, I was almost having panic attacks--the book was hitting so many "buttons" inside me! The insights of the authors (based on hundreds of interviews) were helpful, especially the last section of the book, which reads like compassionate advice from a worried grandparent.