book about transactional analysis. An interesting read about our every day relationships with those around us and how our perceptions of ourselves influence each relationship.
I WAS NOT VERY INTERESTED IN THIS BOOK.
the language is difficult to follow, but the premise is that we aren't as screwed up as we think we are. Once you get into the swing of how this guy writes, it makes sense.
1973 Published. I'm OK - You're OK is the product of Doctor Harris's pioneering efforts in the field of Transactional Analysis. This book is easily-understood and has the key ingredients of successful behavior change into practical advice.
I found this book to have a lot of good advice.
You know a book is a classic when you see it featured in sitcoms. In an episode of Seinfeld, Jerry Seinfeld opens the door of his apartment to find all-time hopeless case George Costanza spread out on the couch reading Im OK - Youre OK. For Jerry, reading a self-help book with a silly title is just one more piece of proof of his friends loser status.
Im OK - Youre OK is indeed an icon of the pop psychology boom of the 1960s and 1970s. Demand for the book was tremendous, and today it sits comfortably in the pantheon of self-help titles that have sold over ten million copies. But a lot of tacky things sold by the truckload in that era, like patchwork bell-bottoms, Bay City Rollers records and tickets to Evel Knievel events - what is different about this product is that it is still selling well.
To understand the success of Harriss book, we must look at the trail blazed by his mentor, Eric Berne. Bernes Games People Play, published three years earlier, was a surprise hit which brought academic psychology to a mass audience.
Berne had developed something called transactional analysis. It was a boring term for an exciting concept, reversing the Freudian tradition that saw the world as I or me-centred. For Freud, other people were not important as people - they were merely ones object relations. Berne reacted against this, elevating relationships to the high table of study. He believed that an encounter between two or more people, a transaction, was psychotherapys elusive unit of analysis. Instead of asking a subject about themselves (as in psychoanalysis), one could determine the problem simply by being a witness to what is actually said or done in the course of a transaction.
The games that people played were like worn-out loops of tape we inherited from childhood, yet continued to let roll. Though limiting and destructive, they were also a sort of comfort, absolving us of the need to really confront unresolved psychological issues. Bernes brand of psychotherapy involved asking the client what he or she wanted fixed and proceeding to fix it. There was no assumption of underlying malaise. This new approach was of course the essence of self-help.
Harris used Bernes work as a basis for his own, but instead of analysing the games we play, focused on the internal voices that speak to us all the time in the form of archetypal characters: the Parent, the Adult and the Child (the PAC framework). All of us have Parent, Adult or Child data guiding our thoughts and decisions, and Harris believed that transactional analysis would free up the Adult, the reasoning voice. The Adult in us prevents a hijack by unthinking obedience (Child), or ingrained habit or prejudice (Parent), leaving us a vestige of free will.
Transactional analysis may not be a household term, but in some minds it lived on. James Redfield has acknowledged Harris and Berne as crucial influences when he came to write one of the biggest-selling books of the 1990s, The Celestine Prophecy. The control dramas that his characters engage in, and seek to be free of, are squarely based on the games and positions of transactional analysis; the survival of the books characters in fact depends on their ability to see beyond these automatic reactions.
Certainly, the Adult in Burns book can be equated with the higher self that forms the centrepiece of so much self-help and New Age writing. Awareness of, and reliance on, this internal voice is a secret that all successful people share.
A classic in a school of psychology that still rules today. All about Transactional Analysis.
I hated this book when I read it in the 60's. It was required for a college course and I was a rebel. Read bits and pieces tonight -- it seems to have improved with age!