Paper Daughter A Memoir Author:M. Elaine Mar When she was five years old, M. Elaine Mar and her mother emigrated from Hong Kong to Denver to join her father in a community more Chinese than American, more hungry than hopeful. While working with her family in the kitchen of a Chinese restaurant and living in the basement of her aunt's house, Mar quickly masters English and begins to excel... more » in school. But as her home and school life--Chinese tradition and American independence--become two increasingly disparate worlds, Mar tries desperately to navigate between them. Adolescence and the awakening of her sexuality leave Elaine isolated and confused. She yearns for storebought clothes and falls for a red-haired boy who leads her away from the fretful eyes of her family. In his presence, Elaine is overcome by the strength of her desire--blocking out her family's visions of an arranged marriage in Hong Kong. From surviving racist harassment in the schooIyard to trying to flip her straight hair like Farrah Fawcett, from hiding her parents' heritage to arriving alone at Harvard University, Mar's story is at once an unforgettable personal journey and an unflinching, brutal look at the realities of the American Dream.« less
A somewhat different take on the experience of growing up Chinese-American. This is the true story of a woman who wants to set the record straight; of her journey from racial harassment on the playground and living in the the back room of her parents' Chinese restaurant, to her eventual graduation from Harvard. To quote her introduction: "We didn't sustain ourselves with ancient fables and Confucian proverbs. Instead, we watched Gunsmoke on TV...The adults spent their free time betting on horses..."