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Subject: This Could Get Awkward...
Date Posted: 9/11/2010 1:51 PM ET
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A good majority of the threads here address issues against other members. So has anyone ever posted a thread about another member (perhaps about a RWAP they sent or something like that) and had the member that was being discussed speak up for themselves? Does anyone sometimes get nervous about that happening?

It hasn't happened to me in that way. The first time one of the books I had sent was marked as a RWAP, I was asking what I should do about it in this forum and everyone told me I should ask for pictures. The sender, who had been following the thread but not commenting on it, sent me pictures before I could ask, which was handy.

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Date Posted: 9/11/2010 1:58 PM ET
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Haven't had that happen yet but it serves a good lesson for all of us.  Always be kind.  You never know what's going on in people's lives.

Date Posted: 9/11/2010 1:59 PM ET
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That is why it is considered improper to use member names\IDs in such threads.

Date Posted: 9/11/2010 2:03 PM ET
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Jason > Oh, of course, never use names. But if the member that you're talking about read the thread and knew it was about them because they recognized your name or maybe you mention the book title...

Date Posted: 9/11/2010 2:11 PM ET
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Yes, it has happened.  While deleting the names really is a must, it can still be obvious if you are talking about book ABC and the person who sent you ABC sees the post. 

As Susan said, it's a good lesson to alway be kind.  There is nothing wrong with asking your question if you aren't sure what to do, just ask tactfully. ;-)

Date Posted: 9/11/2010 2:36 PM ET
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I remember one that happened exactly like that, Erin. 

OP said she'd sent books as part of a deal, all in good condition, yet she been RWAP'd.  Receiver came on, outed herself & disputed OP's description of the books' condition.  Finally, Receiver posted pics of the books she'd received, which really were bad, but it was the Receiver who got whacked by the crowd for publically calling out the OP.

Date Posted: 9/11/2010 2:48 PM ET
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I've seen it happen twice since I've been here.  Both threads got kind of heated before they took it back to PM's.

Date Posted: 9/11/2010 6:50 PM ET
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I've seen it happen once. The criticism was of a RC and the owner of the RC recognized she was being talked about.


Date Posted: 9/11/2010 9:47 PM ET
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I saw it once. I think if I saw myself being discussed that I wouldn't out myself because the one time I saw it, it was the person outing themselves, not the OP, that looked bad.

The person would have to obviously be lying, and I would have to have proof before outing myself. If it's just a matter of disagreeing, I would just stick to PMs instead of letting everyone watch the argument.

Date Posted: 9/11/2010 11:42 PM ET
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Happens upon rare occassion Erin.  As already mentioned, a good reason to always be kind.  It's possible this happens more than we realize, but with TPTB so firm on the 'no name' policy these problems merely become a learning experience for everyone instead of  fighting and flouncing.

Another thought, active forum members are probably more familiar with the rules . . . and therefore less likely to have compliance problems.  Checking out the discussion threads helped me realize that other members have different weather and mailbox situations than mine...so I started using plastic underwrap for all outgoing books.

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Date Posted: 9/12/2010 3:24 AM ET
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