I got a request for a BOB's, I am sure the person that request the BOb is gone for the week end. I accepted her request and picked what books I wanted. The problem is the books she requested is still showing on my bookshelf, I am getting request for the a couple of the books. She asked first so I am having to turn down those. Why do the books still show up? Is it because it isn't complete till she accepts mine.

yes, it is because the transaction isn't complete until you both click accept.

You can leave BOB requests open for a few days as well.  I had someone offer me a BOB. I counter offered and it sat for days w/o an acceptance from her.  I had 2 other BOB offers for the same book in the meantime. I just PM'd them both to let them know that I wasn't ignoring their offer but I had another BOB request for the book that had been pending for a few days. Both PM'd me to say no problem.  I wouldn't leave them open ended for days on end but a few days is all right. 

Yea I figured that was it. Becuase of it being laborday week end I am giving her till Tuesday!