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Subject: This is bad--I wish I my kids had somewhere to go..
Date Posted: 6/4/2008 12:45 PM ET
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I know this is bad, but the last few days my kids have been getting on my nerves. I almost was missing when dd went to school all day..

They've just been obnoxious..they fight with each other, they fight with me..

I know part of it is they are tired of being cooped up cause the weather sucks it's rainy and cold when it should be sunny and 70's...

Do you ever wish you had a break from your kids..

I feel bad for even thinking this.

Date Posted: 6/4/2008 12:52 PM ET
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Are you kidding?  Yes!  Don't feel bad about it.  I've never sent my kids to school but there are days I dream about it. LOL!!  Oh, the things I could CLEAN!! 

I'm sorry you guys are in a funk right now.  cold rainy weather in the summer is bound to do that isn't it?  Remember, this too shall pass :-)

Date Posted: 6/4/2008 1:22 PM ET
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oh I know, just right now they are driving me absolutely BONKERS! It's mainly my 4 year old right now. My 11 year old just voluntariily started doing math. Not the stuff I really wanted her to do right now, but if she voluntarily started it, she can do it!

I have a ton of housework to do, but I don't feel like doing that either! This weather is getting to me too. High was 58 yesterday and rain. Normal is 71 and sunny!

Date Posted: 6/4/2008 1:54 PM ET
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You should find them somewhere to go.

Can you get them involved in a mother's day out program, or a sport or other activity? A church youth group? Anything, even one hour a week, helps. =)

 

Date Posted: 6/4/2008 2:13 PM ET
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I agree with Michelle. Is there another mom you could swap kids with? I do this roughly once every 6 weeks or so. I schedule with a friend to host my kids for the day and then I pay her back b hosting her's. It's works well and knowing that my kids are well taken care of and having fun is a blessing to me too. I can clean or relax with a clear mind.

Date Posted: 6/4/2008 2:42 PM ET
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My older daughter has things she does. She just finished soccer and she swims at the Y. While other parents always stay, sometimes I just drop her off. My 4 year old started gymnastics last night. I'm not sure about leaving her like that..she gets upset when I leave. She likes to either have me or her sister around. She's mama's baby I guess. Maybe she'll get a little better when she goes a few times.

Date Posted: 6/4/2008 4:47 PM ET
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71 and sunny.... can I come live with you. It is 96 and humid here and you wilt as soon as you walk out the door.

People that whine and argue need chores in my house. "Are you whining?, surely not. I have a few toilets that need cleaning."

Subject: God bless you!
Date Posted: 6/5/2008 11:55 AM ET
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thank you for expressing my thoughts exactly! my kids are couped up most of the winter here in MT so they are ready to climb the walls as am I! just remember....this too shall pass....summer is around the corner!

Date Posted: 6/5/2008 5:06 PM ET
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Here is a idea. I have a big plastic box that has things in it my grandson loves, special CD's , DVDs, CD roms and games, clay, little lego kits, even some small art projects. I restock the box every couple of months with new stuff.

 I suffer from cluster headaches. I used this box with my children when they were growing up. When ever I had a cluster, I would bring the box down and they would have a ball. It was only given to them when I had a headache so it was always new, not something they were able to do all the time. It the same way with my grandson now, I don't suffer with clusters like I use to. I use the box now and call it Nanas time out box. When I need time out he gets the box to play with. Usually its hours before he is done. Then the box goes up until I need a break again. It only works if its give to them a couple times a month. If you give it to them to much its not special any more. They look forward to it and you get time out and everyone is happy no guilt feelings.

 

 

Date Posted: 6/6/2008 12:22 AM ET
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I have been where you are!  Somedays I find that it is best for all of us if I give up on getting through the day's learning and pack us up in the car.  We might go the the library, to a park (on a nice day), the market, etc.  It doesn't seem to matter where, just getting out of the house and interacting with others forces us to pull it back together so we can deal with each other.  Good Luck! 

Date Posted: 6/6/2008 12:42 AM ET
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Mary I just want you to know I had one of those days today. I had gobs of paperwork to do and the kids couldn't focus on getting their stuff done without me. So we chucked our school day and they watched TWO full length movies today! Dumbo & Cars. I felt like a bad, bad mom but, ya know what? I can't let it get me down. Besides I got my work done.

Date Posted: 6/6/2008 3:39 AM ET
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I sent my child off to work with my husband the other day - quite happily, and what happened?

Here come the neighbor's children.  "Whatcha doing, big mama?" (that's what they call me)  "can we help you in the garden?  Can I look at your books? Can I play on candystand? Can I feed your fish?  Is my rosemary growing?"

Yes, I sent my son to work and ended up with the ADHD crew who's dad locks them out of the house all day.  
There's an idea for everyone - just lock your kids out of the house all day and let the neighbors entertain them.

Date Posted: 6/6/2008 9:12 AM ET
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"There's an idea for everyone - just lock your kids out of the house all day and let the neighbors entertain them."

LOL! 

Sounds like you are the neighborhood "mom", good for you for looking out for the neighborhood kids.

Date Posted: 6/13/2008 3:20 PM ET
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Send them to all the VBS's in your area!

Date Posted: 6/15/2008 2:11 PM ET
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Oh my, locking kids out of the house, never heard of that.

 

I think we all fantasize of what we could do that needs doing or that we just want to do if we were alone at home with some time of our own. At one point or another all kids get on their mother's nerves.

 

We have been overly busy so the other day we had no appointments and it was like the kids didn't know what to do with themselves. I refused to let them watch TV all day or play more than their one hour of videogame per day. There is a ton of stuff to do around here for fun or education (or both) but they just felt so bored and restless and started bickering. At the bickering point I put them to work with new chores or tell them to go outside and play and ride bikes. I also reminded them they wanted free time now they say they have nothing to do (ridiculous notion). They got over it fast and started finding good stuff to do, books to read for pleasure and so on. Thank goodness.

Date Posted: 6/23/2008 11:04 AM ET
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It's perfectly okay to be tired of your kids once in awhile, they probably get tired of you too!  Whenever I find myself getting a little cabin fever (we live in the middle of nowhere and don't get out much) I notice that the kids start behaving like feral animals.  I figure they are probably a little bored from being house bound too so we take off and do the park or go shopping or something just to break up the routine.  If they're just having a bratty day we live on a farm and there's always plenty of chores to do to keep someone from feeling too bored or argumentative.