"We need to find the courage to say NO to the things and people that are not serving us if we want to rediscover ourselves and live our lives with authenticity." -- Barbara De Angelis
Barbara De Angelis (born March 4, 1951) is an American relationship consultant, lecturer and author, TV personality, relationship and personal growth adviser.
De Angelis received a master's degree in psychology from Sierra University in Los Angeles, and a Ph.D. in psychology from Columbia Pacific University. She was awarded her degree from this now-defunct unaccredited institution after completing a correspondence course.
De Angelis has written fourteen best-selling books in these fields, such as New York Times best-selling books How to Make Love All the Time, Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know, Are You The One for Me? and Real Moments. Her infomercial "Making Love Work" won an award as Best Infomercial of 1994.
She was the founder and Executive Director of the Los Angeles Personal Growth Center for 12 years and is president of Shakti Communications, Inc.
De Angelis has been married five times as of 1995. Her spouses have included magician Doug Henning and author John Gray.
"A man's brain has a more difficult time shifting from thinking to feeling than a women's brain does.""Difficult times always create opportunities for you to experience more love in your life.""I just want to get a Ph.D. in love.""If you aren't good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you'll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren't even giving to yourself.""In order to experience everyday spirituality, we need to remember that we are spiritual beings spending some time in a human body.""Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver.""Love is a choice you make from moment to moment.""Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible - it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.""Love's greatest gift is its ability to make everything it touches sacred.""Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.""Men are just as sensitive, and in some ways more sensitive, than women are.""Men aren't the way they are because they want to drive women crazy; they've been trained to be that way for thousands of years. And that training makes it very difficult for men to be intimate.""No matter what age you are, or what your circumstances might be, you are special, and you still have something unique to offer. Your life, because of who you are, has meaning.""No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.""Only when your consciousness is totally focused on the moment you are in can you receive whatever gift, lesson, or delight that moment has to offer.""The moment in between what you once were, and who you are now becoming, is where the dance of life really takes place.""The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present.""The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together.""The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It's a choice you make - not just on your wedding day, but over and over again - and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife.""What allows us, as human beings, to psychologically survive life on earth, with all of its pain, drama, and challenges, is a sense of purpose and meaning.""When you make a commitment to a relationship, you invest your attention and energy in it more profoundly because you now experience ownership of that relationship.""Women need real moments of solitude and self-reflection to balance out how much of ourselves we give away.""You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back."