On Becoming Baby Wise Author:Robert Bucknam, Gary Ezzo This book has he best overall theories and guidelines for new and even second-time parents, although parents must have the austerity to follow through with the suggested techniques. Not everything works for every baby, but the general guidelines have worked for us more than once. The more willing you are to strictly follow this book, the more ap... more »t you are to get results sooner, but everyone has their own approach. This book can only steer you in the right direction.« less
There is nothing natural about Ezzo's suggestions for parenting. Nothing natural about witholding food and nutrition from an infant when they need it most for growth, and nothing natural about forcing a helpless infant to cry themselves to sleep on their own and witholding the comfort they need. Infants are not manipulative, they are dependant on their parents for all their needs. They are not accessories to be dealt with, they are helpless people reliant on their parents to show them love and compassion to help them grow.
Ezzo and his CIO methods may seem like a godsend to parents who just want to get some sleep but remember that your hours of unconsciousness are being paid for by your baby or toddler. Young children need to have their emotional and physical needs met - they need to be sure that someone in the world is looking out for them when they can't . This is not accomplished by abandoning them in monitored increments until they give up calling for you.
There is a reason that dozens of copies of this book are languishing here at PBS - it's horrid! There is something *un*natural about a parent who can sit idly by while their baby screams itself to exhaustion. Please read Attachment Parenting by William and Martha Sears - they are on the waitlist here, but it's because people hang on to these excellent books.
This is absolutely the worst parenting book I have ever read. Please, please, please do some research on this book and Ezzo before using any of these techniques. I have a degree in Psychology and truly believe that many of the techniques that Mr. Ezzo teaches in this book can be emotionally damaging to your child. The only worse book I have ever come across is Mr. Ezzo's second parenting book....
There is nothing natural about the methods recommended in this book. Wild animals don't even treat their young this cruelly, so humans certainly shouldn't. If you see your crying baby as a problem to be dealt with, this book may be of some use to you. If, however, you see your crying baby as a responsiblity to take care of, avoid it completely. Babies cry for reasons, those reasons need to be addressed, and a babies cannot do that themselves, alone in the dark. Pick your baby up, let him hear your soothing heartbeat, smell your comforting scent and be cocooned in your calming warmth. Read any of the parenting books by Dr. William Sears and you will truly understand how to parent naturally.