Do you ever/usually PM the requestor?  I was excited to send this book out as it was for her neice, and now it looks like it's going to go lost.   But I'm always a little ill at ease sending a PM. I dont' want to seem like I'm a pain checking to see if they got it and didn't mark it received.   But I'd like to send a quick little note saying I hope it's gotten there.    Thoughts?

I typically don't send a PM.  So far all of my books have gotten there eventually.   However, it would set you mind at ease... there is nothing wrong with a quick PM.

This happened to me twice. I sent a short note both times.

The first time, the requestor had gotten busy and forgotten to mark it received. When she got my note, she marked it.

The second time, it hadn't arrived yet. Instead, it arrived late. When the requestor got it, he sent me a PM and marked it received.

In neither case did the requestor seem put out by my short note. So, I'd say go ahead and send a quick note with a friendly wording. It couldn't hurt.

I also 'jumped the gun' because I was nervous - two books (according to the delivery confirmation) had been delivered at least a week before I pm'd the receivers - one responded and said she hadn't received it yet (!) and I never heard from the 2nd person.  Eventually the first book was marked received, and I got a nice pm from her.  Still nothing on #2...  I have since decided to relax and let PBS do the running around for me (-;

  Thanks, everyone :)  I guess I'm just anxious since we were both so excited about getting this book to her niece ;)  I 'll give it a few more days and then send a note.  

I just had a book 12 hours away from being considered "lost" and the DC said it had been delievered 2 weeks prior. So, I sent a pm and, fortunately, the receiver marked it as received.

I have found that it definitely helps to send a friendly PM, but I wait until it's within a week of being marked lost. A few months ago I had several that had this problem around the same time frame. A couple of them just forgot to mark the book received and did so after my PM. Another member said she had been very ill and hadn't been to her compuer in a while. I had to contact PBS to get involved in one because I was getting no responeses to my PMs. However, I eventually got my credit.

This most often happens with AutoWhishlist books by members that are no longer really active traders. People who order the books themselves are pretty good about marking books received.

Sometimes I'll send a PM assuring the requestor that I really did mail it, so that they won't order another one right away.