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Subject: Boy starting puberty
Date Posted: 2/3/2008 8:23 PM ET
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Does anyone know any good books that I can read? I can find plenty for him, but none for me. He's 11. I saw his scrotum yesterday and my lord, the boy suddenly looks like a sasquatch! When did this happen? I am so not ready for this one. I thought that I had a couple of more years :)

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Date Posted: 2/3/2008 11:34 PM ET
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I saw his scrotum yesterday and my lord, the boy suddenly looks like a sasquatch!

Oh My! LMAO!  Thanks for sharing!  I don't have any book recommendations tho!

Date Posted: 2/4/2008 8:49 AM ET
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Regina, you are scaring me....my oldest son is 9 now, and knowing that puberty is so close already has me nervous.  But all that at 11?  I may need to up my meds to deal with this.

Date Posted: 2/4/2008 1:32 PM ET
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Tammy - at least someone got a laugh out of this. I am going to lose my  mind!

Amanda - I need to borrow some of your meds :)

Date Posted: 2/4/2008 4:46 PM ET
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Is he questioning his sexuality?  What type of books are you looking for?

Date Posted: 2/4/2008 6:33 PM ET
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No, he's not. He likes girls ( and there's one that already likes him - YUK ) I just want general info books for me.

Date Posted: 2/4/2008 7:36 PM ET
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I have a 17 year old and its amazing how fast they grow up!  Here is one:

http://www.amazon.com/Speaking-Boys-Answers-Most-Asked-Questions/dp/0345441486/ref=pd_bbs_sr_12?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1202171176&sr=8-12

Here's another one...this one is supposed to be written for teens but looked good for adults to:

http://www.amazon.com/Guy-Book-Owners-Manual/dp/0679890289/ref=pd_sim_b_img_6

Date Posted: 2/4/2008 7:57 PM ET
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Thanks Heidi. They look good.

 earth-shattering choice between boxers and briefs - This really made me laugh :)

Date Posted: 2/7/2008 6:58 PM ET
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boxers here...LOL   I have a 9 yr. old.  Luckly, I let his dads deal with those issues.

Thanks, Heidi.  I'll check the books out.

 

Date Posted: 2/8/2008 12:02 PM ET
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I swear that my husband tells him to ask me. I don't have one of those! Get a clue. I don't really want to see it either.

(sarcasm) I know the words don't always come across right.

Date Posted: 2/8/2008 12:20 PM ET
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My 10 yo son rides the line between boxers and briefs.....he likes the boxer briefs.  LOL!

To be honest, I read book after book and they were really freaking me out.  I kept worrying that I'd forget something and he'd be scarred for life.  I finally threw them all away and now DS and I just talk all the time about whatever's on his mind.  And believe me, there's a LOT on that boy's mind!  LOL! 

Seriously though, I think just keeping the lines of communication open and honest is what's most important in our household.  I hope it continues for many, many years because as much as I thought it would be "The Talk" it's more about talks going on for years so that he gets the information as he needs it.

Funny story.....(Jessie, no telling Derek I told you this one!!  LOL!)....we had been trying to have a very explicit, "This is what sex is" talk with the munchkin for MONTHS.  He kept covering his ears and running screaming into the night at the mention of it.  I'd finally decided that it had been long enough, so DS and I had this conversation: 

Me:  "Hey D, you know the cruise that we're going on next week?"

DS:  "Yeah."

Me:  "You realize that Grandma Mary & Grandpa Jim and Grandma Faye are all going to be there, right?"

DS:  "Uh huh."

Me:  "Well, if we don't have that conversation about sex soon, I'm just going to let your grandparents sit you down and have it on the cruise."

DS:  *Turns and looks HORRIFIED at his mother*

Me:  "Uh huh."

DS:  "FINE!  YOU can tell me, but I don't want Dad being there.....it's so gross."

Me:  *Busts a gut laughing!*

Gotta' love having kids!

Date Posted: 2/8/2008 12:32 PM ET
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My son would probably keel over if he had to talk to my Dad. The books for him are not working, he said that they scare him :) But, my 9 year old is looking and telling me that's just gross Mom.

Date Posted: 3/1/2008 9:00 PM ET
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my question is, How did you end up seeing your 11 y/o son's scrotum?  My partner and I have a 15 y/o now, and he's been particularly private about his privates since he was a young tween.  Which is interesting since we all three are guys, and I serve as both of their doctors when necessary.  So I've done his "turn your head and cough" routine since he was a youngster.

In my household, it's different.  Mike his dad is a massage therapist and my office manager at my medical practice.  Of course, I'm a family practice doctor.  So when it comes to medical things and sex and whatnot, we talk pretty openly about it and don't mince words.  He'll say gross and will want us to stop sometimes, and we don't push it, but we don't shy away from it either.  When I have a patient who has come into the office because of an STD, I tell them both about it, using that as a lesson to stay abstinent or at least glove his love.  So, I realize that not all families have this freedom and opportunity to lead into questions, but I'm glad we do.

For my personal experience my sex talk with my parents occured when they caught me red handed (almost literally) with an X-rated magazine in the bathroom.  The dang door didn't have a lock on it.  My mom had me go out to the living room and asked me if I had any questions regarding what I saw in the magazine.  I of course said No.  Looking relieved, all she said was, "Ok.  Well, you're grounded for two weeks."  That was the extent of my sex talk.  :)