I posted 6 books the other day and cross referenced them with the other trading site I use. The next morning I get online and see that it is requested on the OTHER site, so I come over here to take it off my bookshelf and I can't delete it because it's on someone's wishlist. Regrettingly I PM the person and tell them what's going on. The time for it to expire was last night, I get on today to delete the book, and its on ANOTHER member's wishlist. I PM them and tell them the same thing as the first member. This has happened to me before (only 1 member wish list though) so I usually try to see if it's on one of the site's wishlist, and only post it there for a couple of days to see if it's requested, I just spaced it out this time. I know when I get an email saying on of my WL books are available I get so happy, as I'm sure other members do, so I hate PMing them and dissapointing. Is there anyway I can delete this book so it's not moved on to yet ANOTHER member that I have to let down?

It must be requested before you can delete it.

You cannot delete a book that is on a Wish List and is on hold with the grey explanation point !  When you PM and explain to the member and they allow you to cancel, it will automatically go to the next person in line. You can try to send to Feedback and see if they will delete it for you.

BTW: try not to put a WL book on two sites at one time!  It only causes problems.

Also (and I don't know if you are doing this or not) - don't ask the other person to cancel on their end.  If that happens, they go to the end of the WL for that book, which is unfair to them.  You'll have to cancel it on your end once it is finally requested. 

The lesson here is don't post to two different sites.  If you see there are is a WL for the title on both sites, post it on one only and wait. 

The only time I post one title to two sites is if I see there are zero requests for it, and I also know I'll be close to a computer if a random request for it comes in so I can cancel the other one.  Or if there multiple copies already on hand with each site.

If you post a book on this site, you should be preparded to mail it.       I don't think it's fair to list here and then say "ooops I can't mail this book."    It causes many hurt feelings as you can see by another thread here. 

Why do people post books and don't respond?

It's probably easier to delete it on the other site.

The person on the WL has to request the book and you have to cancel the request.  Otherwise they lose their place in the FIFO line.  Not cool.  Why can't you cancel the request on the other site instead? If you are posting books here you should wait and see if they are WL before putting them on another site as well.  Post them to your TBR pile first if you aren't sure.  It'll show a W if it's WL.  Even if you post directly to your shelf, on your shelf it'll immediately come up with a ! and say it's in 1hr WL hold.  You will have to wait until someone accepts the book.  PM each person, tell them you can't mail it after all but that they need to accept to keep their place at the top of the line.

I post on two sites, but leave my books on here for some time before posting to the 2nd site to be sure they are not going to be requested. Give one site time to see the books before listing them on the 2nd site, that's just a sensible thing to do. To list them on both sites at once is asking for exactly the situation you have.

From the wisher's pov I have to say to please take the advice given here, if you're going to post to more than one swapping site choose one, post and wait a few days before posting the same book to the other site.  I've had this happen to me recently two wishlisted books.  I just want to say that it is very disappointing to be offered a long awaited book only to have it time or be cancelled for any reason, but because you've offered it to someone else makes it twice as bad.

When you are stuck like this... you can PM the wisher and explain as best you can and ask them to please accept so that you can cancel the book.  Until a wisher accepts... the book can't be cancelled until it goes through all the wishers.

Definitely be sure to check both sites before you choose the one to list at, and then leave it for a while before cross-posting. I've only had this problem happen one time. What happened in my case was that I thought I was clear because both sites the book had zero wishers. However, I failed to check for related editions and ended up with two simultaneous requests. I ended up honoring the one that was e-mailed to me first and PMed the requester here to explain. I also offered her a free book from my shelf to make up for the disappointment, which she declined, though she appreciated the gesture.

The moral of the story is to be careful. For me, I always post here first because I can see right away if it's on a WL hold (whereas at the other site I belong to, it's first come, first serve with e-mail notifications, so even if there are wishers, they may not request the book).

I wouldn't post on two sites at once.  I've gotten the ol "I just sold this book," or "I already sent this out thru another site" kinda deal and I think it's rude.  You can find out BEFORE posting wl books if they are wl books.

Sarah,

I also post to 2 sites and most of the time it's not a problem.  The 2 times where I found myself in the same situation as you, I didn't cancel anything.  I just went up to the nearest book store and purchased the book for the requester.  Sure you have to go out and purchase the book once in a rare while, but the fact that you are getting rid of your books twice as fast makes up for it.

Everyone is happy.

Tho I'm just using PBS right now, I have used two different sites before.  Only one at a time tho.  I'll post here (or there) and wait a day or two to make sure nobody wants one of my books right away.  Then I'll go ahead and post on the other site.  Then, I check them both thru the day, to avoid just this. 

Sometimes tho, even with the best of intentions, mess ups happen.  I recall the only time it happened to me.  I logged on in the morning to see what I'd missed during the night.  Went to site number 1 - nothing, no requests.  Came over here to PBS and had one request from my shelf.  So I accepted and printed the wrapper.  Went back to site number 1 to take said book off my shelf over there, we're talking 3 minutes tops in between, and lo and behold, in that short time, someone requested the exact same book!  I sent a kind apologetic email, offering anything else off my shelf for free.  *shrug*