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Subject: Grandmother caring for grandchild
Date Posted: 8/9/2009 11:21 PM ET
Member Since: 10/12/2007
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I am 61 and have had my grandson for two weeks.  His mother and father are unable to care for him now and I have temporary custody.  He is 20 months old.  This has changed my whole life.  I am all over the place with it.  I am disabled with back and knee problems and fibromyalgia.  It is hard to lift him (27 pounds) or pick up things (he likes everything on the floor).  I have a "picker upper" thing, but sometimes I have to bend down to pick something up.  Are there any other grandparents out there raising their grandchildren and know of any online support groups? 

Date Posted: 8/16/2009 2:20 PM ET
Member Since: 8/13/2009
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Hi There! Im not a grandmother but I wanted to say I think its great that your taking care of your grandson. My Grandma was my main caregiver when I was a child. At least thats how I remember it. I didnt have a father and my moms stepdad took over the role of Dad. Well he was the closest thing to a Dad I ever had and still to this day I call him Dad. My mom was a full time student and had a job on top of that. So my main memories are of my grandma caring for me. Grandparents dont have to step in and raise their grandchildren but I think its great when they do. Hang in there and keep up the good work. I hope you find support soon!

Subject: Grandmother taking care of grandchild
Date Posted: 8/17/2009 11:56 PM ET
Member Since: 3/25/2009
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Hi, I'm a grandmother caring for my grandson. He  is almost 3 years. He and his mom have been living with my husband and myself since he was 8 months old. His mom goes to college during the day and works in the evening and on weekends.My husband has early Alziemers and has some days where is a help to me and then other days when I cannot depend on him. Caring for my grandson has been hard as I have rheumatiod arthritis. You don't say if you have any help. I at least have some help and my daughter is home some times but  I care for him the major part of each day. It has changed my life. I have lost all  of my friends as I no longer have time to spend with them. By the time I get him to bed at night I'm to tired to do anything. I do enjoy spending time with my grandson, we listen to different kinds of music and  we love reading books. I might have more wisdom at my age but not the energy. I don't know of any on-line support groups. The city I live in has support groups that meet but they are only for grandparents who have custody of their grandchildren  maybe your city has something. I hope you can find some support and help.Hang in there.

Date Posted: 9/3/2009 11:27 PM ET
Member Since: 3/21/2009
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Hi,

I am a 59 year young, disabled RN. I have been caring for my 7 year old grandson almost full time since he's been 2. He is also high functioning Autistic. It has turned out, after a whole lot of adjustment, my difficult life has become a blessing. I'll be glad to be a support for you. PM me any time. I'm sure we share lots in common :-)

Elona