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Subject: Happy Holidays! (hope they aren't too stressful)
Date Posted: 12/21/2008 8:24 PM ET
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Just wanted to say happy holidays to everyone. I know that all the familyness can often times be tough in our community if our families don't support us. 

This year is our 2nd year of spending Christmas day with each other's families (our families waited until we were married to do that) and last year we did my family, this year it's Greta's.  My family has always been WAY more accepting.  Greta's parents have totally come around but not all of her extended family is okay with the fact that we're having a baby.  So that feels a little stressful/awkward.  But it could be soooo much worse.

 

How do you all think your holidays will be?

Date Posted: 12/21/2008 9:23 PM ET
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Happy Holidays to you too Jessie!  I hope you & Greta & the little one have a blessed holiday & new year.

Date Posted: 12/21/2008 10:42 PM ET
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I hope that the baby will help your family realise how special love is, no matter who shares it.

We are spending Christmas with my in-laws. Very stressful for me, esp since I really wanted to go to my family this year. However since my SIL wont be there it might be easier. . .

Happy Holidays to all.

Date Posted: 12/24/2008 1:03 PM ET
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Jesse, I've been away for awhile and didn't know that you were pregnant!  How EXCITING!!!!  When are you due?  HOORAY...BABY ON THE WAY!!!!

 I agree the holidays can be very stressful.  Since my DP's parents have both passed, we always spend Christmas Eve with my family.   My parents aren't totally accepting, but they put up a good front for the holidays.  My sister more than makes up for their lack of acceptance. 

 



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Date Posted: 12/24/2008 1:22 PM ET
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my family... extended and all...love my partner...and her kids. its like a dream to be truthful.

at first her parents weren't so accepting. but they soon tired of their daughter not coming around much... so they gave in so they could see her... well in the process... they have learned to like me too.

now, it is nothing for both of our families to get together for a holiday celebration. her parents adore my parents and vice versa.

stranger things happen as time passes.

happy holidays all.

Date Posted: 12/24/2008 4:44 PM ET
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If the weather clears up, my mom, brother (who is an admitted redneck, lol) and his 18 yo daughter are supposed to make the drive to come & see us this year on Saturday.  So if you have any good vibes, please send them this way as my mother is still has a loooong way on her journey in accepting our relationship.  But hey, at least she's coming here, so I give her a bit of credit. (besides, they'll be on our turf, hahaha)

Date Posted: 12/26/2008 6:02 AM ET
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Happy day after xmas.. I hope everyone had a good holiday... and yes, us straights have some of the same types of family issues.. my DH denies it, but I know his mother would have rather him married a "woman" that was meek and stayed home with the kids and enjoyed talking about children and hte weather like everyone else in her family, but alas he got me... the ballsy , bossy, loud and tom-boyish one ....  but hey, we love who we love  :)  Peace and joy to everyone in the coming year... a year I hope we'll see some real strides in equality for all :)

Date Posted: 12/27/2008 10:04 AM ET
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Mary - how did it go?

Sam - I know that your in-laws really stress you out.  How did it go?  DH is lucky he got you!

Rose - thanks!  We're due on May 20th - we hit 20 weeks on New Years Eve.  It was gently suggested to me that I wear baggier clothes on Christmas so that extended family couldn't tell I was pregnant.  Fun stuff:)  But now it's over!

Date Posted: 12/27/2008 10:33 AM ET
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ugh for the "gentle" nudge for you to wear the baggier clothes :(  

I survived... MIL is now spending 4 days with my parents.... THAT should be itneresting... although she never says anything, so we'll never know if she actually had a good time or what she thinks of anything :)

L. G. (L)
Date Posted: 12/27/2008 8:11 PM ET
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Jessie, I think you need to wear that cutle little slinky black dress you have been saving - you know - the one that shows your tummy beautifully. :)

Yes, families are a trip!  I am pretty glad I live 3000 miles from mine...

Date Posted: 12/27/2008 9:54 PM ET
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Ah, Thanks for asking Jessie. My mother canceled via email yesterday.  She said she didn't want to drive in the rain (it's an hour & 1/2 drive).  Would have been nice if she had called, since we made a special trip to the grocery store to buy food for today.  I'm a little disappointed, but at least I didn't have to kill myself cleaning the house yesterday.  So we just bummed around today, which isn't a bad thing.

Date Posted: 12/28/2008 11:42 AM ET
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Families...what can you say.  It's liberating that we can make our own families, and not just have the ones we were born into.

Jessie and Greta....CONGRATS!!!!  I'm so excited for you both.  It's a wonderful adventure!