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Subject: I can't be the homeschooling parent that works..
Date Posted: 3/12/2008 10:43 PM ET
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I have run across several other homeschooling families who think it is weird that I work outside the home.

Tonight I mentioned something about homeschooling to my daughter's soccer coach, she goes "yeah, but I have to work" like she just assumed I stayed home and she had to work cause she is a single mom, she seemed a little angry about it.

Surely I am not the only homeschooling Mom to ever have a job at the same time?

Subject: I work a bit
Date Posted: 3/12/2008 11:16 PM ET
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I work a bit as a private tutor - some years I have worked more than others, this year is a light year.  I have a friend who works, but her parents do most of the homeschooling of the grandchild and another friend who homeschools, works and is a single mom (I don't know how she handles it all!).

You are not alone -

Date Posted: 3/12/2008 11:18 PM ET
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I didn't figure I was:) I just have not run across anybody else.

Date Posted: 3/12/2008 11:44 PM ET
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Here is a link to a homeschool site with some ladies that are working while homeschooling

http://homeschoolchristian.com/forum/forums/forum-view.asp?fid=52

Date Posted: 3/12/2008 11:54 PM ET
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thanks for that link Sherry, great info there.

Date Posted: 3/13/2008 12:24 AM ET
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I have several friends who do both, they are incredible people! My hats off to you!  I think that it is a great example for others in the event that they want or need to do the same thing.

Date Posted: 3/13/2008 12:34 AM ET
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well, I'll tell you, it's really hard at times. we do schoolwork at weird hours sometimes. But my daughter is not a morning person so it works that we study in the afternoon/evening.

Date Posted: 3/13/2008 9:38 AM ET
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I think when people respond like that it's because they think *you* are judging *them* because they "can't do it".  I think many non-HS'ers secretly wish they could HS.  If only they knew they could - whatever the circumstance!

I don't work for pay, but I have a lot of intense volunteer work.  Since I had a career in a service field for 7 years before kids, I would not have been able to be a SAHM for the past 10+ yrs w/o outside activities.  Most of my volunteer work I do from home, so I can do it at the same time as my son is doing schoolwork.

I run the stateside office for missionaries.  I am the registrar (a.k.a. chief datahead) for our large HS co-op, and I'm the advancement chair for our Cub Scout pack.  Most all that I do is "behind the scenes", yet it still gives me satisfaction to help other people.

If it wasn't for the way DH and I have budgeted since before we got married, I would not be able to SAH.  Our DD's medical bills are exhorbinant!  We would have gone bankrupt due to that 7-8 years ago.  Instead, the Lord keeps providing!  :-)

JC

Date Posted: 3/13/2008 10:11 AM ET
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When I started homeschooling, I was working full-time and did off and on for 6 years. A couple of years after that, I started working from home. Working outside the home is easier! Homeschooling is definitely not for everyone, but like JC said, some people think that you are judging them. Just tell them how hard it is and you're thankful for all the support you get and most people will stop being so defensive. Nobody likes a supermom! :)

Michele

Date Posted: 3/14/2008 7:53 AM ET
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I have always schooled my kids at home (13 and 9) but have worked outside the home for the past two years. Takes some juggling but it's possible. It's all about priorities...homeschooling just isn't at all on most peoples lists of 'Things We Must Do For Our Families'...and that's ok. My family decided to homeschool and we've just never looked back. We make it fit in with whatever else is thrown our way. Works for us, I guess. But no, you're most definitely NOT the only homeschooling Mom out there - most of my homeschooling friends work outside the home as well. Heres to you! m
Date Posted: 3/14/2008 4:11 PM ET
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I think those people assume you work a day job that is outside your home. They also assume your child is home with you during the day (so the child is not being left home alone) and that you do your lessons during the day.

I don't know your situation or how you work it. I do have some friends who HS their kids and work. There are all kinds of combinations of how it gets done.

One is self employed, part-time, and her job is over email and on the phone. She does a little during the day but most on nights and weekends. She therefore is at home with her kids plus is available to HS them during the daytime, or to drive them to outside classes.

Another mom I know used to work from home part-time as an independent contractor, doing project management work. She did her work with planning, writing, and emailing between 4am and 8am. Her child woke up at 8am and then they had all day together similar to what I have with my kids. Occasionally she'd have to do a conference call meeting during daytime hours with the office workers. Now that mother is self-employed with a small business centered around tutoring. She fits in work in the day and evening. She hires a babysitter to care for her child during those times.

Someone near me just told me that she works a full time day job outside the home. Her DH is home with the child during the day. The mom does the HS lessons at night with the child. The DH works full-time nights away from home.

Another mother I knew was an RN working in a hospital and worked nights and weekends and rotating holidays. She HSed the kids during the day. DH worked a day job M-F and then was home with the kids on the nights and weekends.

I do not work outside the home for pay but I do volunteer work. I hate it when people tell me they would be too bored to be a 'stay at home mom' or a 'homeschooling mom'. Some people have told me that they think the only 'brain stimulation' or 'adult interaction' has to come from a paid job. It is the working moms who tell me that (not men).  I am very 'stimulated' with my personal pursuits (hobbies etc), writing, blogging, volunteer work and homeschooling. I resent the notion that the only way to use one's brain is by working for pay. I am very intellectually fulfilled.

Anyway when people say that to you, perhaps you can say, "I do work full time and I homeschool, we just have a creative and flexible schedule and I make time for both" or something like that. Consider that you are educating them. It may be the first time they ever thought someone could combine work with homeschooling!!