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Subject: The Kids Are All Right
Date Posted: 1/20/2011 7:32 PM ET
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Did you see it?  What did you think?  I was disappointed, and angry. 

Subject: I agree
Date Posted: 1/20/2011 9:09 PM ET
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I was very disappointed by the whole movie...and it's sad because it had the potential to be great :(

Date Posted: 2/10/2011 1:22 AM ET
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I liked this movie a lot. What did you find so disappointing about it?



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Date Posted: 2/10/2011 8:43 PM ET
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Yeah, same bullshit that Hollywood has been pulling for years.  I couldn't believe when they did it again...I almost walked out.  We can't have a commited relationship and we still long to have hetro sex...blah, blah, blah.  At least the kids were good kids and normal!  

Date Posted: 2/11/2011 3:54 AM ET
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Very disappointed in this movie.  Same crap they always pull in movies.

Date Posted: 2/17/2011 10:24 PM ET
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I felt it touted itself as one kind of movie and I found it to be a very diffrent movie.I guess the people who made and stared in it were oblivious to the faux paux and blabbered on and on as it won various awards. I would have preffered a same sex cople who stay together and raise an amazing family with out bring in bio dad and so on I think the movie got derailed or hijacked whichever u prefer.

Date Posted: 2/26/2011 8:39 AM ET
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I was fine with the donor coming into the picture, as I think that that's fairly likely.  I didn't mind that storyline.  But the fact that she had to sleep with him?  WTF.

Date Posted: 3/31/2011 9:13 PM ET
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I was massively disappointed in it too :(  It makes it seem like same-sex couples are just pretending to like each other, and they secretly like the other gender. 

Date Posted: 4/13/2011 11:17 PM ET
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I ranted and raved about this movie with my friends for ages after seeing it. First, it was extremely boring, actually. If it were about a straight couple who had used a donor it wouldn't have been nearly as interesting. The only thing it had going for it was that the parents were two women. Second, most people haven't been exposed to that kind of family setup before. The gay porn bit AND the fact that one of the moms sleeps with the donor makes their sexuality seem like a total ruse. I was severely disappointed. I don't know why it was hailed as such a huge milestone for the LGBTQ community. Its popularity was not a good thing.

Date Posted: 2/15/2012 2:10 AM ET
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I really enjoyed this movie: it was not perfect but I felt like it had a lot of important things to say. One caveat: I am not very familiar with Hollywood's past attempts at lesbian relationships, so this was more or less my first exposure to it on the silver screen.

I do not think that Jules sleeping with Paul was intended to be read as "lesbians always want a man deep down" - I think it demonstrates how complex sexuality is, how complicated relationships are. Jules and Nic are going through a rough phase of their life: Nic is developing/has a problem with alcohol, Jules feels stifled: this happens in real relationships.

The gay porn thing seems like a cute idiosyncrasy that actually applies to me and other lesbian/bi couples I know: good porn is good porn for a lot of people, and the point Jules makes about the fakeness of a lot of lesbian porn hit the nail on the head (of course, plenty of gay guy porn is just as fake).

I had more issues with racism Jules expresses in her relationship with the gardening assistant guy: but this could also be read a bit differently. Is it an example of how marginalised people also have relative privilege in other areas?

It's been awhile since I saw the movie so I can't comment further at the moment, but that's my take.

Date Posted: 2/17/2012 6:05 AM ET
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We saw this awhile back as well, or I should say, started to watch it. It was a mockery of what could have been a decent family unit.  Yes, lesbian families can suffer from the same ills as any other, including infidelity, abuse and alcoholism. But to make a film where one partner  cheats with a man and LOVES it, panders to what the straight world (in general) still thinks about lesbians. I also think that the women were having some real issues between them and might have cheated with anyone who came along, male or female.

Granted, I haven't watched any porn in a while but from what I remember of my chaoitic 20s, there wasn't any decent or realistic lesbian porn that didn't have both women looking like cheerleaders. (No offense intended to cheerleaders.)  M/M porn isn't my cup of tea but, hey, whatever works for you!   I liked the stars they chose having seen them in many other movies, and they probably did the best job they could being straight people playing gay people, although they will never be as good as those of us gay people who still have to act straight.



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