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Subject: Legal Trouble
Date Posted: 9/9/2008 8:50 PM ET
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Everything is being pulled out from under me.  My husband has not really wanted to have our kids homeschooled but he has always gone along with it.  My oldest daughter has been in a private school for four years now/8th grade.  Our twins have been in one of those public school/homeschool programs for three years which did not go well for them the last year.  Now, right when school is starting my husband has called a lawyer and says I have to put them in public school or he will.  And that if I don't I will be breaking the law.  I'm not sure how many of you all believe in prayer, but we could sure use some right not.  He does not want to listen to anyone expert or not, just get them in public school or else.  Thank you for any prayer you send our way,  Melita

Date Posted: 9/9/2008 10:16 PM ET
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I will pray for you!!! Know there is someone out there that is praying for you daily!!!!!

Date Posted: 9/10/2008 12:54 AM ET
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Melita please go to HSLDA's website. www.hslda.org  You can check out the laws in your state there.

You could probably also call them and they could give you some tips.

Adding my prayers to Michele's.

Date Posted: 9/10/2008 12:58 AM ET
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Our prayers, too, are with you and your family, especially for your husband, that the Holy Spirit will touch his heart.

Kathy in California

Date Posted: 9/10/2008 5:22 AM ET
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You will be in my prayers as well.

Subject: I have prayed for you
Date Posted: 9/10/2008 1:52 PM ET
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I just have a minute to reply, so I hope this comes out as I intend it.  It seems like there are bigger issues here than just homeschooling.  I don't know what faith (or none) you and/or your husband are.  Are you and your husband separated?  Otherwise, I don't understand why he would consult a lawyer instead of discussing it with you.

This might not be what you want to hear, but if your husband feels that strongly, for the sake of your marriage and family, I would put the kids in school.  Unless homeschooling is more important to you than your marriage.  (I'm assuming here that you are currently married.)  Before I get flamed for saying that, I want you all to know that I am a leader in our homeschool group and a strong advocate for homeschooling and have homeschooled for 15 years. 

I don't know you.  I don't know your family dynamics. All I know is what you've written.  What are your reasons for homeschooling?  If they are faith related, I will tell you that God is able to keep your children and work in them regardless of where they are in school.

I am in no way laying blame here, so please take this in the spirit in which it is written.

Blessings and peace,

Tonja

Date Posted: 9/10/2008 2:25 PM ET
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Yes, there are many other problems within our family.  I don't want to sound like I am blaming him for everything, yet it is mostly problems that he has that he refuses to look at.  I've spend over 15 years learning to heal through Gods grace and He has asked me to stay with my husband even though he does not know the Lord yet.  The problem is that over all these years (4-5) he has let me know that he did not like me homeschooling but he always allowed me to continue.  It is only just this week that he has pulled the rug out without any notice.  All summer he watched me getting ready and setting up everything for teaching but didn't let on about his plans.  You have to know him, he will not have a two-way converstion.  It is his opinion only no one else's matters.  At this point I am turning to prayer and friends for prayer.  It has been my desire to follow God's plan and be obedient. but this time it is very hard to consider doing so to a husband that has betrayed me to deeply.  I continue to ask God to show me the line between submiting to my husband and going against God and I continue to pray for wisdom in this matter.  Thank you for your thoughts and prayers everyone.  I put everything in Gods hands. 

Subject: You are in my prayers, too.
Date Posted: 9/10/2008 11:45 PM ET
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Melitta,

It is my prayer that God continue to strengthen you in a tough situation and give you wisdom! It sounds like you have been the wife that has tried to win her husband without fighting back and maybe if he sees that you will not be ruffled by his antagonism, but can even put them in school if it is his wishes, God may be able to help him see the power you have as a christian, NOt by Might but by My Spirit says the Lord!  I know God is able to do abundantly more than we ask!

Let us all pray to be like Melitta, strong in an opposing atmosphere and to love our enemies. I need prayer for that, too.

Date Posted: 9/11/2008 9:42 AM ET
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Melitta,

You're in our prayers also!  Keep us updated!

Date Posted: 9/11/2008 2:37 PM ET
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Thank you all for your prayers and support.  With Gods grace and peace I am honering my husband and his desire to have our children in a regular class room.  I was not completely opposed to this.  God has also given peace to my children as they did not think they wanted to go along with it.  As you may know my husband does not have the Lord in his heart and that can make things difficult when trying to understand what to do, and to honor and respect him while he makes decisions without Gods wisdom.  God has helped me with this and will continue to offer me grace.  Thank you again and God Bless.  Melita

If you have not already done so, please fly our countries flag on this day of remeberance

Date Posted: 9/11/2008 3:03 PM ET
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Melita,

 

You and your children are in our prayers! 

I would tell him that since it is his desire for the children to go to public school.  He would be the one to attend all the school functions and help with homework nightly.  I would continue to support my chidren but I would demand he be the one to go to school meeting, and all the other duties that go along with public school. 

That alone scared my husband into letting me continue to homeschool.

Lots of prayers and good luck!

Date Posted: 9/11/2008 3:40 PM ET
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Hi Melita, I just want to add that I will also be praying for you and you whole family.  I am praying that God continues to give you the wisdom, love and patience to get through this difficult time.  I will also be especially be praying that your husband will be drawn to the Lord through this whole situation.  Blessings, Carrie

Date Posted: 9/13/2008 10:16 PM ET
Member Since: 10/9/2006
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And for your children, Melita, we can pray for God's protection around them. May God grant them happy teachers, caring friends, and easily seen work of God in their classrooms. 

Adrianne