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Subject: Other Lesbian Parents
Date Posted: 9/28/2008 12:53 PM ET
Member Since: 12/20/2005
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There is another lesbian couple at my son's school!  I've been working at my son's public elementary school for 1 1/2 years now.  We made the decision to be out when the kids started school and have found a very supportive environment.  I have been volunteering at the school since the kids started, and when I was out of a job last year the principal approached me about a job in the office.  Last year I worked in the office and this year I've been hired as a teacher's aide/reading tutor. 

Anyway...I was helping out in our kindergarten class and one of the little boys got dropped off late and the mom walked off with this backpack by mistake.  I chased her outside to retrieve it, we both laughed because I had taken my kids lunchboxes with me on several occasions.  I introduced myself and she asked me about setting up a meeting with the teacher.  Then she told me that her son has two moms.  When I told her that we had two moms in our family too, she didn't seem to understand.  LOL  I told her "Yes, I'm lesbian"  she got this look of relief that I have seen so often in our community when we can finally be out in our school environment.  I told her about my experience with the school and encouraged her to get involved. The more faces of our community that people see the more barriers that are broken down.  But now I'm preaching the choir. 

As it worked out the teacher already knew, because the boy had outed his moms.  And she had already had the diversity talk with her class! 

I think that we both made each other day!



Last Edited on: 9/28/08 1:13 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 9/28/2008 1:35 PM ET
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Wow!  How wonderful that you have a support system going -- or, at least "started".  I bet you made that Mom's DAY! (maybe even made her whole WEEK!!)

I'm glad the school was/is so accepting and understanding. That sure relieves tons of tension!!

:)

Date Posted: 9/28/2008 2:50 PM ET
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Oh Rose, reading that just gave me goosebumps!!! How cool & great is it?!?!?  I had to chuckle that the son 'outed' the moms already, hehe.  And you are right, little by little, we are making progress.  Keep up the good work!

Sharon C. (Mamu) - ,
Date Posted: 9/28/2008 3:10 PM ET
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Truly things are changing in ways I feared I'd never see in my lifetime.  I'm with you, Mary.  Thanks for sharing that, Rose.  It gave me a lump in my throat.

Sharon

Date Posted: 9/28/2008 7:14 PM ET
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Gave me goosebumps too!! How great! 

Date Posted: 9/28/2008 7:57 PM ET
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How great!!! 

Date Posted: 9/28/2008 9:28 PM ET
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Rose that is AWESOME! I am so happy for you and your son that you have a supportive environment!

Date Posted: 9/29/2008 11:57 AM ET
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 I am happy to hear about how supportive the school is!!

Date Posted: 9/29/2008 6:42 PM ET
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Great to hear.  :)

L. G. (L)
Date Posted: 9/30/2008 1:29 AM ET
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That is so cool!  I'm glad your school is so supportive. :)



Last Edited on: 9/30/08 1:29 AM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 10/5/2008 4:55 PM ET
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That's a lovely story.

Date Posted: 10/7/2008 1:09 PM ET
Member Since: 9/26/2008
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Good to hear that their are more Out lesbian/gay families.

I too am part of a Lesbian Parented household. my partner and I have 4 kids and one grandchild. The kids are 10,13,15,18...and grandbaby is 7 months.

I have always found that when dealing with places such as schools, hospitals, places of work, it is best to be completely open and honest about your sexuality..especially if you are out otherwise. People tend to think that when you don't reveal certain things like that abuot yourself, that you must think of it as a BAD thing too...since you were so adamant about hiding it. We have had no issues with any of the schools our kids attend and everyone knows us one sight. Our kids are also very active with sports, etc...and all the parents there are very supportive and open to us.... even if thye don't agree with our being gay, at least they realize that we can be good parents too.

From one Proud Lesbian Set of Parents to Another.