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Subject: +Looking for ideas on books about teens fitting in
Date Posted: 10/5/2009 6:36 AM ET
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My daughter who is 12 going on 13 says she doesn't feel like she fits in anywhere at school and I was wondering if anyone knows of any good books about where there is a character that feels the same way and how they learn to fit in even if they don't follow the "norm of the group".  She says there are alot of different "groups" at school (athletic, arts, gothic etc) but she doesn't feel like she belongs to any of them because she is not athletic, artistic (even though she sings very well and draws very well) and we have told her she is way to pretty to be dressing gothic.


Date Posted: 10/5/2009 12:13 PM ET
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Define Normal  by Julie Anne Peters ISBN  0316734896


ETA:  http://www.paperbackswap.com/book/details/9780316734899-Define+Normal

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Date Posted: 10/5/2009 2:54 PM ET
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Fitting in isn't all it's cracked up to be.  I recommend the Scott Westerfield Uglies series (Uglies, Pretties, Specials.  My daughter loved them!


Date Posted: 10/5/2009 6:06 PM ET
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I agree with Sherry -- fitting in isn't all it's cracked up to be. 

A very old-school suggestion: Judy Blume's Are You There, God? It's me, Margaret.   It might even show her that 12 year old girls through the ages felt like they didn't fit in.

Date Posted: 10/5/2009 6:36 PM ET
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Hey, I take total exception to the "too pretty to be goth" statement!

(see sixteen year old gothy Caviglia above)

I think letting her know that alienation is a normal part of the human condition, and that many (if not most) teens feel this way, might be of help.  But, "The Westing Game" is, IMO, the greatest of all books about a girl your daughter's age who doesn't fit in.

Not a book - but I highly recommend watching the first few seasons of Buffy, too.  The later seasons are likely too grown up.