Are you and your mate having troubles understanding one another? Do you feel like you've made something perfectly clear, but your mate isn't comprehending what you're saying?
This wonderful book may help you better communicate with each other. Men and women are raised differently, despite the best efforts of others to raise them equally. As children, boys create a different social community and a way of communication from girls. This gap tends to become larger the older we get. Gray provides translations of "Venusian"(woman) to "Martian"(man) and "Martian" to "Venusian". Some of the most common phrasing for both sexes is found here and will take the guessing game out of these ambigious statements for both sides.
Men and women think differently. It's something one must learn. While some people may think that this book provides "excuses" for behaviors, I simply found that it explained them. Once one understands them, one is better prepared to handle them.
Also note that in the introduction, Gray does not suggest that all females will be one way and all males will be another way. He suggests that there are two major ways of behavior and the book helps explain them.
I recommend this for all couples alongside "The Five Languages of Love" by Gary Chapman and "The Color Code" by Taylor Hartman.
When the men in your life are worried, do they hunker down like bears in a cave? Do they act like they don't want to talk to you at all, while you keep wondering why they are mad at you?
If this sounds familiar, read this book. Dr. Gray does an excellent job of explaining how men and women respond to life's challenges and problems and why their responses are so different. This book enabled me not to get upset when my husband disappeared behind his computer for long periods, especially when I knew he was under pressure at work. It was a revelation, to say the least.
It is written in deceptively simple language. Don't judge it harshly for that. It has some very basic truths to offer you.
This book is pretty good - you'll come across several "Ah-ha - it all makes sense now" moments... but after about half way through the book it becomes extremely repetitive. You'll get the idea by then - I'd recommend just skimming the rest for good points here and there.
While I generally like relationship books, I wasn't too impressed with this one. Seemed like he wanted the woman to do all the hard work in dealing with the man when he "goes into his cave" and with his pride and ego, and all the man has to do is pretend to listen once in awhile. Meh. I've read way better relationship books.
Do you understand how a man thinks? Do you understand how a woman thinks? These are the questions that will help understand how to better function in any relationship. Men think one thing at a time women are web thinkers, how are your emotions on either side affecting the way you or your mate think. I really thought this book was great and I have really benefited from it. Contrary to what you think you know. Read it it is a quick read and I really think you will benefit from it. Knowledge is power.
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Helpful in understanding different styles of communication regardless of dated gender references. Should help improve communication in any relationship(with a partner, parent, child, friend, or coworker) by showing the reader how to be a better listener, addressing motivation, and by providing guidance on defusing conflict.
I read this in hardcover awhile back and it completely changed my outlook on relationships in a good way. It gave me good insight into the male psyche and helped me to understand why men act the way they do, which in turn helps any relationship. :)
Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.
Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Dr John Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling loving relationships. Based on years of successful counselling of couples and individuals, he gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs, and modes of behaviour to promote a greater understanding between individual partners.
Psychotherapist Gray ( What You Feel You Can Heal ) adds to the growing number of self-help books that assess marital and relationship problems in terms of distinct and pervasive gender differences. Unfortunately, his overuse of gimmicky, often silly analogies and metaphors makes his otherwise down-to-earth guide hard to take seriously. Here Martians (men) play Mr. Fix-It while Venusians (women) run the Home-Improvement Committee; when upset, Martians "go to their caves" (to sort things out alone) while Venusians "go to the well" (for emotional cleansing). While graphically illustrative, the hyperbolic, overextended comparisons, particularly in the chapters that refer to men as rubber bands and women as waves, significantly detract from Gray's realistic insights.
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Once upon a time, Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.
Using this metaphor to illustrate the commonly occurring conflicts between men and women, Dr. John Gray explains how these differences can come between the sexes and prohibit mutually fulfilling, loving relationships. Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, he gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs and modes of behavior to promote a greater understanding between individual partners.
A practical guide for Improving Communication and Getting what you want in your relationships. A valuable, much needed book. A contribution to the understanding of the communication styles of men and women.
This book heped me to understand my husband's behaviors and how to better communicate with him back when I was in my 20's. It also reassured me of some of my own feelings, I'm not alone. Other women are feeling as I do sometimes.
Once upon a time, Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: They forgot they were from different planets :) Get seriously involved with the most famous relationship book ever published!
It's sort of common sense. Anyone who has ever been in a relationship and has half a brain could tell me the same thing. Unfortunately though, lots of people in relationships today don't have half a brain. So for those folks, have at it-it may help you understand human nature a bit more!
I read this book of curiosity. It's not that this book is wrong; its impractical. People do exhibit the behaviors described in this book, but not because they are one sex or the other. The theories I can tolerate; the sweeping generalizations, I cannot.