I was disappointed in the ending of the book. It moved along very fast in the beginning as the author delved into her past and described her biological parents. Towards the end one entire chapter is devoted to deposition type questions without answers. I'm not sure the story is completed yet in my mind.
In my opinion, the book was a little disappointing, because I was probably expecting something different. It would appear that real life never sounds quite as exciting as fiction (even if fiction is usually based on real life!). However, this book meandered quite too much for my taste, and I tired of the self-pity, as, after all, the author did grow up in a loving family environment.
I loved the writing style and the story was engaging. The ending does feel open and unfinished, but I found that to be more true and more authentic than most autobiographies. Most of the memoir-type books try to tie everything into a nice fluffy bow at the end, but real life isn't like that, so I found the ending to this book to be fitting.
As an adult adoptee this book really hit home. Though my circumstances were different from the author's, I understood her feelings. She tells her story in a compelling, easy to read, hard to put down way. I read the whole thing on the plane.
This is an important book for adult adoptees.
I agree with the other reviews......I enjoyed most of this book. It was interesting to read about the author getting to know her birth parents and circumstances of her conception. However, when the athor decides to research her family tree things get a little drawn out and boring. I still enjoyed the book and it was a quick, little read.
This is a wonderful audio book. Ms. Holmes writes with lots of compassion about her experiences as an adopted child. Her birth mother sought her out, and what happened once she learned about who her birth parents were. She writes with warmth and compassion about both her adoptive relatives and her birth parents. This is a very good book for anyone who has interest in adopting or who knows someone who was adopted. I hope someone gets to enjoy it as much as I did.
I really love A. M. Homes, particularly the spectacularly twisted "The End of Alice." So I was a little disappointed in this memoir in which she relates the discovery of her biological parents (she was an adopted child)and her subsequent delving into her roots, both biological and adoptive. I found it to be interesting though somewhat lackluster. I expected more from her.
I just couldn't get into this book and I tried several times. The author seemed a bit bitter and angry about her past...or at least that was my take on it. I quit trying to read when I got to the genealogy.
Because this is an autobiography, one cannot expect the same fast-paced, tightly-wound spring of a story line as one might get from a murder mystery. The book was well-written but seemed to sag a bit in the middle.
I love the narration of Jane Adams and I was originally drawn to this story because it is autobiographical. I enjoyed this story of human nature and self reflection. After you listen, you feel as if you have a personal friendship with A.M. Holmes.
This book surprised me. I knew it was about adoption, but I was also hoping it was about her writing life. Since I am unfamiliar with adoption I didn't expect this book to interest me as much. But, to my surprise, the journey of finding her biological parents was totally strange, heartfelt and intriguing.
An interesting, thought provoking book. A detailed review of what it's like to be adopted, to find your birth parents, and deal with their eccentricities.
This book wasn't very well written. I usually really enjoy memoirs but I'd have to put this near the bottom of the list. I think if it had been written better it would have been really good because the story was interesting, her birth mother is really a mess. She had a sad life. I think the author probably wondered why she ever tried to find her in the first place. Her birth father is pretty much a jerk. Just goes to show that some people can be very thankful that they got their adoptive parents instead of their birth parents.
This was a very compelling read although I found the ending disappointing. A.M. Homes was adopted and in her late 20's was contacted by her birth mother. She later made contact with her very selfish birth father. The story is of self-discovery, a little be of self-obsession and, finally, self-acceptance. A very good read.
This was the first book I've read by A.M. Homes. I was expecting a little more but I can't say this isn't a good book. I read this months ago so details aren't coming to mind very easily but I do remember the basic story.
I remember vividly how honest the story seemed. I think a lot of the time, especially with something so personal as this, an author glides over certain aspects, whether to save themself the hurt or whatever else. Homes didn't seem to do this as far as I could tell.
I suggest this to someone wanting to read and learn more about what it's like for a child who was adopted to have their birth mother come into their life all of a sudden. I think the key thing here, with Homes' story, is that she was fine without her and didn't really want her in her life.
I enjoyed the part about her getting to know her birth parents. The geneology part got long, though. All in all, though I enjoyed it.
I read a lot of adoption reunion stories. This one was interesting as it was told by an adult adoptee who did not initiate a search. She wasn't really looking for a relationship with her birth parents. So it was different from previous books I'd read on the topic. It was a good read.
I read The Mistress's Daughter by A. M. Homes because I am also writing a memoir about my absent father. Homes was the product of her very young mother's affair with a much older, married man. They gave her up for adoption at birth. When Homes is 31, her mother contacts her and Homes discovers both her parents. Her interactions with them, exciting at first, prove ultimately disappointing. I really enjoyed the parts where Homes imagines her mother's youth, the affair, the pregnancy. I felt that the part where Homes recounts her genealogical research into her parents' ancestors was quite boring at times: this person came to America, got married to X, had a child named Y, etc., etc. The most moving part was the list of questions that Homes wants to ask her father, but which he refuses to answer. A very interesting memoir, well narrated.
Beautifully told tale of love, redemption and hope.
Hearing the story from the viewpoint of the adoptee as an adult was very interesting. I felt like many people don't realize how it feels to be adopted unless they are in that position. But as another reviewer said, I tired of the self-pity. I felt like the book was one big complaint about her life. I also felt like the book got a little boring at times. I didn't get to the end because I got tired of hearing her complain.