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Subject: My mother passed this morning
Date Posted: 8/23/2008 5:33 PM ET
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My mother passed away in her sleep this morning.  She was in so much pain and was so confused and anxious that I know I should feel glad that she is free from all that.  But all I can think about is when I left yesterday she was crying and begging me to stay. 

I am grateful that my brother and sister both were able to come and spend some time with her before she died.  They did get to say their goodbyes to her. 

A little history, she had a stroke on 4/17/08 and was admitted to a nursing home 2 weeks later.  She has been in hospice care for about the last 5-6 weeks.  This last week was so very hard, she was extremely confused and could say nothing more than "help me" over and over.  She would only eat a few bites each meal, so I knew the end was near.

Please keep my family in your thoughts as we go through this difficult time.

Subject: praying for you
Date Posted: 8/26/2008 8:59 AM ET
Member Since: 10/8/2005
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I'm sorry for your loss.

Date Posted: 8/26/2008 2:11 PM ET
Member Since: 7/15/2007
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My thoughts are with you and your family. Losing a loved one, no matter how long they have been sick (or not) is never easy. There is some comfort in knowing they experience no more pain, no more fear, no more confusion or suffering. May you and your family be able to heal and remember all the beauty of her life, letting the pain pass from your memory.

With love and sympathy,


(Who has lost many loved ones over the years)

Subject: Peggy's mom
Date Posted: 9/3/2008 8:29 PM ET
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Dear Peggy,

I lost my mother too.  Guilt is part of our normal feelings when our parents die.  I know you did all you could and so does she.  It’s been a little while since you wrote this and I hope you feel a somewhat better.  Of course you will never get over the loss of your mother but time will lessen the pain.  What comforts me is knowing I will surely welcome back my mom in the resurrection of the dead.  This is a promise from God in the bible.  Jesus proved that he had the power to resurrect the dead and what he did on a small scale he will do again on a grand scale.  (Luke 7: 11-17)  Jesus Christ said: “The hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out.” (John 5:28, 29)  Jesus Christ promised that all those in God's memory will be resurrected.  Our loved ones who are now asleep in death will have a resurrection to life in a peaceful new world right here on earth.  Christ resurected the dead back to life on EARTH.  He can surely do it again for our mothers.  Our God has promised that he will soon bring an end to the present world society that is under Satan’s control. (Proverbs 2:21, 22; Daniel 2:44)  A righteous new human society—“a new earth”—will then be a reality. (2 Peter 3:13)  At that time “no resident will say: ‘I am sick.’” (Isaiah 33:24)  Even the anguish of death will be done away with, for God “will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away.”—Revelation 21:4.  In God’s promised new world, the meek ones “will indeed find their exquisite delight in the abundance of peace.” (Psalm 37:11) 

I sincerely hope, Peggy that a review of these scriptures will bring you some comfort.


Date Posted: 9/8/2008 8:56 PM ET
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Sorry to hear about your mother.  I hope you and your siblings are doing ok.  My thoughts are with you.


Sara M

Date Posted: 9/9/2008 11:13 AM ET
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I'm so sorry for your loss.. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Both of my parents have had massive strokes and it's so devistating.

God Bless

Date Posted: 9/26/2008 11:08 PM ET
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I lost my father recently.  I wasn't prepared for the pain of it all.  But in the midst, God has given me strength and comfort. I have prayed for you.

Date Posted: 10/11/2008 10:39 AM ET
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Date Posted: 10/19/2008 12:53 PM ET
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I know how hard it is to lose your mother. My thoughts are with you. :(