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Subject: multiple PM and free book offer from member?
Date Posted: 12/13/2012 1:15 PM ET
Member Since: 11/11/2011
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a member who i have ordered several books from before keeps PM me with new books she has posted. i get these every few days. now she has offered to send a book free to anyone who responds but we need to include our email. the book interests me but why would she need my email? should i tell her not to PM me anymore or would that be rude? is this normal PBS behaviour? thanks!

Date Posted: 12/13/2012 1:17 PM ET
Member Since: 8/23/2007
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It happens but getting those PMs every few days seems excessive. Also I don't see why she would need your email.  I wouldn't give it out unless it was someone I was really good friends with on PBS. 

eta: it would not be rude to ask her to stop PMing you.  If you don't want them anymore than ask her to stop.  If she's sendin out blast PMs then you are probably on her friend list. You could just unfriend her.

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Date Posted: 12/13/2012 2:59 PM ET
Member Since: 8/27/2005
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I'm guessing she wants your email so she can send you more pleas to order from her, but maybe they'll be ones that don't follow the PBS rules--like selling books or something similar.

If I got that message I'd probably ask her why I'd have to provide my email if I accepted her offer, just out of curiosity.  But it's definitely okay to ask her to stop sending the messages.




Last Edited on: 12/13/12 3:00 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 12/13/2012 11:08 PM ET
Member Since: 12/28/2006
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No, I wouldn't consider that normal PBS member behavior.

I agree with Mary, remove her from your friends list and see if that stops the pm's.  I don't see any reason for the e-mail request, I wouldn't comply.  If unfriending her doesn't stop the nagging, politely ask her to exclude you from future offers.

Date Posted: 12/14/2012 2:45 AM ET
Member Since: 8/26/2006
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If you ask her to stop PMing you and she doesn't, please let the Admin Team know.  No Spam allowed here.

Date Posted: 12/14/2012 10:50 AM ET
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Janelle, I think I may have been receiving PMs from the same person you are.  At first it was amusing because the messages were very "interesting" but I finally asked her to stop sending PMs to me and the member did so immediately.

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Date Posted: 12/14/2012 9:38 PM ET
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That would annoy the crap out of me and would definitely ask them to stop whether it was rude or not. Invading your privacy with sales pitches is the rude part. I can see a one off pm if they have a WL book similar to one you ordered or something like that, special circumstances, but not to just push random books on a regular basis. And there's no way they would get my email address.

Date Posted: 12/14/2012 10:44 PM ET
Member Since: 8/16/2007
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Ask her to stop and you might also warn her that requesting members email addresses may get her in trouble. This is from the Help Center:

Note: the Personal message system may not be used for obscene, rude or harassing messages, or sending multiple unsolicited messages to members (this is considered spam). If you spam by PM and we receive a complaint, you will be warned. If you repeat the offense after being warned, your membership will be terminated permanently.

Note: It is not all right to contact a member by means outside of the Personal Message system, unless he or she has given you permission.

  • We know that the Internet contains search engines which can permit access to private information such as telephone number, but it is NOT OKAY to use information obtained in such a manner to contact another PBS member.
  • If such contact is initiated without the express permission of the other member and the other member complains, you will recive a warning. If the offense is repeated, or if any such contact is harassing (even if it is a first offense), your PBS account will be terminated permanently.
Date Posted: 12/17/2012 1:24 PM ET
Member Since: 2/13/2007
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Yup. I think I too was receiving those same emails and I finally asked her to stop with the solicitation emails, and haven't gotten another one. Frustrating and annoying.