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Subject: New Foster Parents need help!
Date Posted: 11/6/2007 2:51 PM ET
Member Since: 5/3/2007
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My husband and I just passed out foster parent classes. And they taught us a lot but I feel I need more. So I'm asking my fellow pbs friends to give me recommendations on helpful books and parenting, foster parenting, etc. And if you have any of these books and would like to offer a deal that would be great.


I have a few on my wishlist that I think would be helpful but could always use more.





Oh and the ages of the kids will be 0-6 but we have a 9 yr. old in the house. so any age would be good.

Date Posted: 11/6/2007 3:56 PM ET
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Hi Fallon, congrats on finishing up your foster parent classes!  We just adopted our two foster kids after having them for two and a half years. 

You are SO right that the foster classes do not in any way shape or form prepare you for this adventure!  So I am glad you are continuing your education.  A book that I have found very helpful is called Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow by Gregory and Regina Kupecky.  I read it when we were foster parents and it helped me really tune into what our kids were probably thinking and feeling.  It helped me be more empathetic and gave lots of good ideas of things to help. 

Hope that helps.  God Bless, Carrie

Date Posted: 11/6/2007 4:23 PM ET
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Hi Carrie/FAllon,

As a somewhat seasoned foster parent (4 years and 15 kiddos), here are a list of some of my favorites both for you and for the kiddos. Sorry, all of mine are on my keeper shelf

Kids Books:

A mother for Choco

All Families are Different

The Family Book - Todd Parr

Girraffes Can't Dance

I love you because you're you

Parents Books:

1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline for Children 2-12

Another Place at the Table: A Story of Shattered Childhoods Redeemed by Love ::

Black Baby White Hands: A View from the Crib :

Inside Transracial Adoption

Swings Hanging from Every Tree: Daily Inspiration Reflections for Foster/Adoptive Parents

Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Craft

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew

Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Craft

Please feel free to PM me if you have any questions. 


Date Posted: 11/6/2007 4:30 PM ET
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The boys we adopted are almost 15, 16 and 24 years old now.  It has been 15 years since they came to us.  We have been foster parents for 20+ years.

I have been reading books on learning disabilities, discipline and raising boys.  It is maybe a little late for the raising boys books  but it can't hurt.  I would suggest lots of kids books for you to sit together as you read to them when you get them.  Otherwise I will try to remember you as I finish the books I am reading.  I start too many and don't get them finished.


I wish you the best!

Date Posted: 11/6/2007 4:45 PM ET
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Oh, "A Mother for Choco" is one of my favorite books EVER!

Date Posted: 11/6/2007 7:09 PM ET
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thanks everyone. The books sound really helpful. I'm going to take a look at them.

Date Posted: 11/12/2007 2:10 PM ET
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still looking for deals on parenting books. Thanks