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Subject: can I refuse to send a book
Date Posted: 8/30/2010 12:46 AM ET
Member Since: 1/16/2009
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to someone who has a long fussy sounding RC? I usually have no problem with rc's as the books either meets thier conditions or it doesn't, but this is a big long rc full of  "ifs" and while the book in question is in good shape this rc makes me nervous.... as in it is so long and hard to decipher  it seems like they could find a way to make a book not fit. If I hit "does not meet conditions" it asks me to say why and I do not know what to say, if I put "your rc is scary" that seems like it would start trouble, lol.

Laura M. (LMM) - ,
Date Posted: 8/30/2010 12:54 AM ET
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Just say "Book does not meet RC" and move on.

Date Posted: 8/30/2010 1:05 AM ET
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The system is set up so folks do not know who declined their RC.  The only way they can find you is if yours is the only copy and they request it with their RC turned off.   Feel free to say that the RC is too long or too threatening.  I've turned down one that I am just uncomfortable with the tone.  If we don't say why, then they will not be aware that their RC needs editing.

It is the person with the RCs job to be polite and welcoming.  They are, after all, asking for a flavor.

Date Posted: 8/30/2010 2:28 AM ET
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Angela, you are not obligated to accept RC's that make you uncomfortable (or merely annoying).  In fact, is often wiser to decline and save yourself more complicated problems later if the receiver chooses to RWAP.

Subject: I had a similar experience
Date Posted: 8/30/2010 3:24 AM ET
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A few weeks ago, I had a request with 7 paragraphs of RCs.  (Search the forum and you'll find my posting.)  When I declined the request, I told the truth - I can't remember my exact words, but it was probably something like, "I decline to trade with such lengthy requestor conditions."  It never hurts to be honest, but there's no need to be rude, either.  But Laura's suggestion is quite good - "Does not meet RC".


Date Posted: 8/30/2010 7:41 AM ET
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I usually just put something like "requestor has too many conditions" or similar.

Date Posted: 8/30/2010 7:58 AM ET
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I am with the others, decline and move on. I don't mind RCs that are short, specific and to the point, but if an RC is subjective ("don't want books that smell like smoke,"  "i prefer this or that") I decline. If an RC is long, winding and with numerous explanations, I don't even read it all, and just decline.

Emily wrote: They are, after all, asking for a flavor. 

Could I have chocolate, please? Thanks. wink


Date Posted: 8/30/2010 10:45 AM ET
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I agree that you should mention the lengthly conditions.  It might help the member realize that s/he is shooting him/herself in the foot by having a fussy RC.

Date Posted: 8/30/2010 11:28 AM ET
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I agree with about declining and stating the truth in polite terms. If the person gets a lot of declines, they may be wondering why they are getting them so it's good to clue them in.

Date Posted: 8/30/2010 4:07 PM ET
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I can only agree w/ everyone else. Sometimes I wonder if everyone remembers that we are trading used books on good faith with each other.

Date Posted: 8/30/2010 5:16 PM ET
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I agree with what has been said....I usually put, "I'm uncomfortable with the lengthy conditions."

Date Posted: 8/30/2010 6:33 PM ET
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The longest RCs I've seen are all about standard posting guidelines.  I always hesitate to say "does not meet RC" for those as my books are post able.  But all those "should" "must" and "cannot accept" RCs that go on for paragraphs are frightening.   Christy's "uncomfortable" is great.

Face it, tone and language do matter in a RC.  Your RC is not the place to vent about past trades. 

Date Posted: 8/30/2010 7:00 PM ET
Member Since: 9/13/2007
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I can only agree w/ everyone else. Sometimes I wonder if everyone remembers that we are trading used books on good faith with each other.

I find myself wondering the same thing ever time I get a book that I have to mark RWAP. If you ask me, it's not the members with conditions that aren't acting in good faith. The only person they are "hurting" is themselves.

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