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Subject: Requester condition, Is this to picky?
Date Posted: 11/7/2008 12:24 PM ET
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Please tell me your opinion.

Earlier I had requested a wishlist book that I was looking to add to my library and I have the following conditions for books that I think I may want to keep due to receiving a few paperbacks that were listed as hardbacks:

Please double check that this book is the binding listed.

I would prefer not to receive ex library books.

Thank You :o)

This is the response that I got back from the member I ordered from:


The member who this book was ordered from had this to say....

you're picky.  good luck with others.


So am I being to picky?

Thanks for your honest opinions.

Date Posted: 11/7/2008 12:29 PM ET
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I don't think you are being picky, some people just disagree with anyone who has RCs.  However, since you are asking opinions, I think you RCs need to be more firm and maybe a bit more clear.  Like:

Please double check that this book is the binding listed.  For example, if your book is a hardback, please make sure the request is for a hardback and if your book is a paperback, please make sure the request is for a paperback.

No ex library books, please.

Thank You :o)

When you had the "I prefer not..." part, it was ambiguous.  Do you want them or not?  Make it clear.

Hope that helps.

Date Posted: 11/7/2008 12:35 PM ET
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I don't think you're too picky, but I agree with what Lisa said, especially about the library books part.  Either you want them or not. If I had a an ex-library book I would be confused as to whether or not to send it, as it just says you'd prefer not to have them.

Date Posted: 11/7/2008 12:38 PM ET
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I don't think you are too picky however I'd use less words NOT more.  Some people don't like to read conditions.

No library books! 

That would be plain and simple and no one could misunderstand.

Date Posted: 11/7/2008 12:48 PM ET
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Date Posted: 11/7/2008 1:06 PM ET
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Thank you all for your views and help on this.  I have now changed it to how lisa had it stated as that is a lot clearer. 

The book I was trying to order is "The Autobiography of Henry VIII' by Margaret George"

I would not have minded having my request turned down if it had given a reason other than  " Your picky "  I felt that was kind of rude. I personaly would never give this as a reason not to send a book.


Date Posted: 11/7/2008 1:34 PM ET
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"You're picky" is very rude. When I feel that a RC is picky, I just say "I'm not comfortable sending the books based on the RCs"

Date Posted: 11/7/2008 3:19 PM ET
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Oh for ciminy's sake...  I just accepted one this morning that was 3 paragraphs and somebody thinks that's picky:P  Mine was from someone in the military on active duty & overseas.  They went to all of that time & effort to explain the ins & outs of mailing books to a military base overseas and offered suggestions on how to get it there asap & without any problems.  I looked at this thing and thought about all of the people who would turn it down without even reading the 1st paragraph & accepted it:P

Date Posted: 11/7/2008 4:10 PM ET
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Maybe the sender had a 3-year-old screaming in the other room, a cat fight going on outside, and the phone started ringing.  She may not have wanted to take the time to check the binding. :-)  Your RC is very polite, IMHO.

Date Posted: 11/7/2008 5:46 PM ET
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Do what I do when turned down for an RC...especially the way the worded why they turned you down...think, "well, that is one copy of the book I'm better off not getting, it probably would have arrived RWAP!!"

Date Posted: 11/7/2008 6:39 PM ET
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LMAO! So your picky if you ask the person to follow the PBS rules..Just have to laught at that seems people like to forget them when it suits them.  Makes you wonder if that book was the right binding..

As for no ex-library books, dont know why that should be called picky either, either you like them or you dont. I understand people swap books because they want to keep them and an exlibrary book doesnt look great on a home library shelf.

Date Posted: 11/7/2008 7:46 PM ET
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I don't know who is to say what is or isn't picky.  You know what you want and what you don't want.  If you don't want a library book, then the person who has a library book should just not accept your request.  Your request will move on to the next person and his book will remain at the top of the FIFO list. 

If you find that you are having a lot of your requests turned down, then you may want to change your conditions.  But that's up to you.  You should be able to get the book you want without attitude. 

Date Posted: 11/8/2008 1:18 AM ET
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It doesn't sound too picky to me!

Date Posted: 11/8/2008 6:18 AM ET
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It doesn't sound picky at all to me.

Date Posted: 11/8/2008 10:59 AM ET
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I think your requests were reasonable. 

I did receive a request for a book to be in very good to new condition, when it was over 7 years since being out-of-print.  If they wanted that type of condition, they needed to BUY the book from a dealer.  I just canceled the order and sent it to the next person on the wishlist.

Date Posted: 11/8/2008 11:03 AM ET
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Matt C. (mattc) - ,
Date Posted: 11/8/2008 3:29 PM ET
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Double post...

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Matt C. (mattc) - ,
Date Posted: 11/8/2008 3:29 PM ET
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Nah, it's fine.  Assuming it came up, I probably would double-check the binding (even though I list books by ISBN, and check at the time) and if it was an ex-library book (I do have a few) I would say it did not meet conditions with just the note "This is an ex-library book."


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Date Posted: 11/8/2008 8:42 PM ET
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doesn't sound picky to me but seems like I've read before that the isbn is sometimes the same for differnet bindings. not sure but seems like someone was saying that once.

Date Posted: 11/9/2008 12:37 AM ET
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I'm with everyone on this one.  I don't think your conditions are picky at all.  You are entitled to get the books the way you want them. I've had people cancel transactions with a "we don't send books to people with RCs". 

I'd personally rather not get books from people that take such issue with whatever conditions I might have for books.  AND I don't have a problem taking the time to read others' RC so that I may send only proper books (and not waste my or anyone else's time).  Sheesh.


Date Posted: 11/9/2008 2:52 AM ET
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People can get funny about things like that.  RC's can get complicated.  simple is better.  I don't have RC's ordinarily, but if I order a book for my mom it has to come from a home that doesn't have cats.  She has dangerous allergic reactions to cat dander. I have the books mailed directly to her so I don't get to see them because I live 1400 mi. away.  I just had an order for  a book that doesn't come into the system often to be sent to her.  The member just sat on it until the system declared it timed out.  I don't know why they didn't just refuse it.  In the meantime I went and bought it used from Amazon.  One other thing is that my mom about has a heart-attack when a book comes that is an ex-library book.  To her library books are sacred. As we all know libraries aren't always so  thorough as to mark their discarded books as no longer useful to them.  So I have to hope that any books I send her aren't former library books.  I don't think she believes me that libraries sell off their books after a certain amount of time.  She's thinking that people are stealing them and then trading them!  And I'm sure that has happened before!  But I wouldn't accuse anyone of it!


Date Posted: 11/9/2008 10:38 AM ET
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No....you are not being too picky.   You should be able to receive the books how you want them and based on the binding description.

I get told alot that I am picky and get refused on a regular basis....but my conditions are in place for a reason...I've received books in the past in those very same unacceptable conditions.

Date Posted: 11/9/2008 2:11 PM ET
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Some people reject any and all rcs.  That might be their standard response.  I find RCS annoying usually but even I didnt find that one too picky. I would have accepted after I made sure I had the right binding and it wasn't an exlibrary book (I buy a lot of those). 

I think the FPO/APO people have an RC that PBS automatically adds for them-so people are aware that it might take longer to get there etc...,

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Date Posted: 11/9/2008 3:58 PM ET
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Date Posted: 11/9/2008 11:00 PM ET
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I don't think your RC was too picky at all.  I didn't have an RC until I got a book that just reaked of smoke and a few that were water damaged.  My conditions state:

I am not willing to receive books that smell like smoke and please don't send obviously water damaged/ moldy/mildewy books

I know that this is stating the obvious as far as the water damage/mold & mildew but some people just don't read the guidelines when they sign up.  I got turned down for a book today and the email reason was this:

"Basically, I wouldn't like to deal with a person with such a negative attitude"

I have had the same RC for over a year and never had anyone tell me I was negative because of my RC....I have had some requests turned down because they didn't meet the my RC which is fine with me.  Everyone has their own thing...some people apparently get offended by RC. I feel like it is a resource available to me so I use it....I may lose a few books but they probably weren't ones I would be happy with.

 *edited for spelling

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