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Subject: no response from member?
Date Posted: 3/4/2009 4:15 AM ET
Member Since: 9/18/2008
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Some one had a book on my wish list and it went to the 48 WL hold. I responded that I did want the book and then looked over their bookshelf to see if they had anything else I want. Shock of shocks they have a bunch of books I'm looking for, so I PM'd them and asked them if they ever do deals?  I also asked them to hold off sending the book as I would be ordering more books from them once I know if they did deals or not and was eagerly waiting for a reply..Figured the worse that  would happen was that they would say no to any deals and I'd only order a few books from the for now.    I resend my message after 48 hours when I hadn't gotten a reply.  I think I was polite and didn't offend (certainately didn't mean to if I did).

Only they never replied to my PM and then they mailed the WL book I had requested.  So I'm a bit baffled.  Wouldn't you reply to let someone know you don't do deals when they tell you they plan to order more books from you regardless of if you do deals or not?  So now if I do order more books from them they are out more postage than if they had mailed the books together.  And, I'm not sure I am going to order anything from them now that they have completely ignored me.  What do you all think?  I'm I being overly judgemental?

Date Posted: 3/4/2009 8:42 AM ET
Member Since: 8/10/2005
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Well, it takes all kinds. LOL I guess if they've already mailed the book,.personally, I would just go ahead and order the books you wanted from FIFO and not reward them for their behavior. Of course, they're under no obligation to respond to PMs, but it would seem to me that losing out on a couple of book requests is a just reward for not bothering to respond. It's their loss!

I used to get PMs occasionally asking if I do deals (which I don't--except for unpostable and ARC freebies) but I did respond to say no, I don't do deals. I may have lost out on a few orders because I don't do deals, but I'm not short on credits and I'm a big believer in the one book = one credit philosophy. Now I have a note that I don't do deals at the top of my bookshelf for people to see, which has helped.


Date Posted: 3/4/2009 9:02 AM ET
Member Since: 5/16/2008
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I always respond to PMs, but I've heard of people who feel annoyed or affronted by them. Like, excuse me for bothering you. I don't think you did anything wrong, and in fact, I've done the EXACT same thing you have. And it's worked for me about 50/50. It's like, it can't hurt to try, right? I guess just try to smile and be happy that you're getting your WL book. If you want some other books, you can maybe make a post in the BB, and someone who is more responsive may reply. You're not being judgemental. You can go ahead and order from them if you want, or just go through the FIFO because maybe they don't deserve your requests and someone else does!

Date Posted: 3/4/2009 9:17 AM ET
Member Since: 8/19/2007
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I don't think you did anything wrong either.  I've had people send me PMs asking if I did deals, and sometimes I do and sometimes I don't, but I fell there's no harm in asking, and I always answer the PM one way or another. 


Date Posted: 3/4/2009 1:24 PM ET
Member Since: 12/9/2007
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I've been asked several times - obviously when my bookshelf was bigger and better.  I did 2 deals and turned down a couple.  People can always ask - I don't have to do it.  Sometimes with very common books or books that are plentiful at the time I will take the opportunity to get rid of the books for fewer credits and lower postage.  It's amazing how much cheaper it is to send more than one book.  But I know there are some people who are highly annoyed by being asked for deals and/or being contacted.  It's a good thing for them that PBS has started putting the message from PM's into the emails about a new personal message.  I personally don't get it.  I get far fewer PM's than junk email and like it much better.