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Subject: Seeking Suggestions for Facts of Life Book
Date Posted: 1/11/2008 8:26 PM ET
Member Since: 8/22/2005
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I'm not a homeschooler, but I find that y'all are a great resource, so I hope you don't mind me posting here.

I have a friend whose daughter is in 5th grade (public school.) They are very protective of the kids (also have son in 2nd).  Nothing is their household is ever more than "G" rated. Books are screened. They rarely watch TV.  Nothing but Disney-type movies. 

When the school offered the standard "maturation" classes in 4th and 5th grade that require parental permission, the parents refused to let their daughter attend. So she sat alone in the library and studied while the school nurse had "the talk" with all the girls.

Now - the mom is in a panic, realizing that they have protected the daughter TOO much.  She knows nothing and is woefully naive. Yes, the mom realizes she needs to have a talk with her daughter, but they've never discussed ANYTHING - birds and bees, having a period, nothing. Add to this the daughter is very tall for her age, making her look a couple years older.

Do any of you have suggestions on a book that might help Mom and Daughter (and maybe the son, later)?

Appreciate any referrals.

 



Last Edited on: 1/11/08 8:28 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 1/11/2008 9:54 PM ET
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My son is almost 10 and recently read two great books.  They did **wonders** for him and his fears/questions:

Preparing for Adolesence by Dr. James Dobson (of Focus on the Family):

www.paperbackswap.com/book/details/9780830724994-Preparing+for+Adolescence

Book Description:

Adolescence brings with it many physical, emotional and mental changes. This 10-session study, based on the bestselling series by Dr. James Dobson will help youth (ages 9-14) understand those changes-what they are, why they happen and their importance as steps in the process of becoming an adult. This guide is designed for use in group settings such as Sunday School classes, youth-group or small-group meetings

Students will learn how to deal with feelings of inferiority, develop self-confidence, stand up to group pressure, say no to drugs and alcohol, make sound decisions based on God's will for their lives, understand their urges for independence and much more. This is an excellent program for any setting in which there are young teens and preteens to teach!

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and

So You're About to be a Teenager:  Godly advice for preteens on friends, love, sex, faith, and other life issues by The Raineys (Of Family Life Today)

www.paperbackswap.com/book/details/9780785262794-So+Youre+About+to+Be+a+Teenager+Godly+Advice+for+Preteens+on+Friends+Love+Sex+Faith+and+Other+Life+Issues

Book Description:

Samuel and Rebecca Rainey, preteens themselves not many years ago, add their perspective as young adults who vividly recall their own successes and failures as teenagers. Covering such topics as friends, peer pressure, boundaries, dating, and sex, the Raineys address the most common traps of adolescence and teach young people how to avoid making poor choices. Short, concise chapters are filled with engaging illustrations and practical applications. This book is essential reading for preteens.
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With either book, I'd highly recommend the parents pre-read to see if they want to alter anything from their viewpoint.  For instance, the two books approach m*****b*tion differently.

I've heard great things about the American Girl book, The Care and Keeping of You.  Since I have a son, that one didn't work :-).  It's frequently recommended on my homeschooling boards, even the Christian ones.

www.paperbackswap.com/book/details/9780613113830-The+Care+and+Keeping+of+You+The+Body+Book+for+Girls+American+Girl

HTH!

JC

 

 



Last Edited on: 1/11/08 9:55 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 1/12/2008 8:25 AM ET
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There is a series called "God's design for sex" .  book 3 is geared for ages 8-11.  She can see them at this link.

http://www.christianbook.com/Christian/Books/easy_find?Ntk=keywords&Ntt=God%27s+design+for+sex&action=Search&N=0&Ne=0&event=ESRCN&nav_search=1&cms=1&Go.x=0&Go.y=0

We have used book 2 to talk to our son and it was done very tastefully. 

 

Date Posted: 1/12/2008 6:02 PM ET
Member Since: 7/28/2005
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But I bet this girl isn't in the dark as much as her parents think she is - it's amazing what kids will pick up from their friends.

Date Posted: 1/13/2008 8:41 AM ET
Member Since: 12/28/2007
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yeh, but most things "picked up" from school are not accurate so i would worry ASAP too.  good that they realize they may be setting themselves up for some problems.

i have boys and though the books may/may not be of interest to a girl, i will post them later in case others are looking for books for boys too.

 

i know that i purchased them for my son and he threw them in the hallway outside his room 4 or 5 times! eventually, after i put them back in the room, he read one of them and found it helpful (for Q's he had...we had had many talks prior to me getting the books). 

good luck to your friend and ill try to post the boy books later.

Date Posted: 1/13/2008 10:44 AM ET
Member Since: 8/22/2005
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No doubt the girl's friends have shared information.  Recalling from 1st grade when my best friend loftily explained "how babies are made", I shudder to think WHAT information she's picked up from them.

Thank you all for the advice. If anyone else has a suggestion to share, I'd welcome any other ideas or referrals.

Have a great day!

Date Posted: 1/14/2008 9:33 AM ET
Member Since: 8/24/2006
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The American Girl book, The Care and Keeping of You is really good we got this for our daughter as a reference after we did the passport program. The passport to purity program by Dennis Rainey (Author), Barbara Rainey (Author) is nice for parents who want to have the talk with their kids and help them set some boundaries before the situation arises. ISBN-10: 1572296569

Book Description
A True Connection product. Box with four CD, 64-page student guide, 88-page parent manual, gold seals, and commemorative passport.

Connect with your preteen or early teen on this once-in-a-lifetime getaway!

Parents, how would you like a workable plan and effective tools to successfully prepare a preteen or early teen for the turbulent adolescent years? This guided weekend retreat for a father and son or a mother and daughter will:

Provide everything needed for a once-in-a-lifetime getaway together.

Help you confidently and effortlessly share the "birds 'n' bees" talk.

Prepare your child to make wise, biblical choices about friendships, growing to sexual maturity, moral purity, and relationships with the opposite sex.

Grab your child's attention with drama, sound effects, upbeat music, and creative object lessons.

Use Passport to Purity to open the door to adulthood. Establish a foundation of openness and trust which will last a lifetime!



Last Edited on: 1/14/08 9:34 AM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 1/19/2008 11:43 PM ET
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I don't think kids in 5th grade necessarily need to know about sexual intercourse, but they should know about the changes their own bodies are going through. 

For that latter topic, I suggest The Body Book by Nancy Rue.  It is written from a biblical perspective, about God's design for our bodies, what periods are all about, when a bra is a good idea, etc.  It has spaces for the girl to write answers to questions, to 'think on paper' about certain things.  It's a great book!

Rue has also written other books for girls at this stage in life, including The Beauty Book, The Buddies Book, and others.  Each of these books also has a companion book in the Lily Robbins series.  These are wonderfully realistic stories about a girl named Lily and all the normal stuff she goes through that most girls go through at that age (5th-6th grade). 

The book that goes with The Body Book is Lily Robbins, M.D., which is actually the second book in the Lily series.  (Here's Lily! is the first, and it goes with The Beauty Book.)  I would suggest having the girl read the Lily story with her mom (or separately), then go through The Body Book together.

I have all the Lily books, and am in the process of getting all the companion books.  = )

~Jori