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Subject: Sex Buddies?
Date Posted: 10/12/2008 3:04 PM ET
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Hello there Lesbian Friends!!

How many of you are FOR having a sex buddy? I mean, the friendship is there, the trust is there and the sex is great. But neither of you wants a commitment. 
Are you FOR it, or AGAINST it?  And please explain WHY in your post. 
Thanks!!!!!! :)

(Reason I ask **Besides being nosy.. LOL** is because I finally started putting my book together and may incorporate a same sex "convenience friend" if you know what I'm saying... hehehe)

Date Posted: 10/12/2008 4:55 PM ET
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Please don't be shy!  If you just don't want to post here for the world to see, you could PM me.  I totally respect your privacy and your opinions.

Thank you, in advance.

Dawn  :)

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Date Posted: 10/12/2008 8:27 PM ET
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Um, yes, I would have had a friend with benefits--no strings.  I think it is a plausible relationship in which there is no jealousy involved.  I could answer more, but not sure what you are looking to know.

Date Posted: 10/12/2008 8:50 PM ET
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Spill it ALL, Baaaaabyyyyyy!  LOL  

Just tell what you are comfortable with. You can tell me via PM if you want. Who knows, maybe you'll end up in my book. (Which is flying, by the way! Woo hoo!)   Thanks Tammy, you always make my day. hehe

Date Posted: 10/13/2008 2:02 AM ET
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I'm certainly not against it, but it wouldn't be my way in the world.  I think DP of 17 years would be fried!!

Date Posted: 10/13/2008 11:52 AM ET
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i think that a relationship like that is totally possible. before i met my partner of now 5 yrs, i had a friend that was also my "sex" buddy as you put it. we knew enough about our relationship that we adored each other as friends and had a physical attraction to one another, but that we would also make a very bad couple. and that living together 24/7, we would butt heads more often than not. i think a no-strings sexual relationship is as plausible as anything else, as long as both aprties know that is all there is and will be aside from the friendship.

Date Posted: 10/13/2008 3:20 PM ET
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My DP would love it but only if it was a 3some..... just can't seem to want to SHARE me unless I involve everyone all at once. Uhmm, WEIRD! I think that would be too weird.  Ya know?

Date Posted: 10/13/2008 4:16 PM ET
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poly isnt for everyone

Date Posted: 10/13/2008 4:42 PM ET
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yep, exactly.

Date Posted: 10/13/2008 4:50 PM ET
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well Dawn, aren't you just quick on the replies..lol

Date Posted: 10/15/2008 8:49 AM ET
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For Me:  Monogamy, Intimacy and honesty says it all

Date Posted: 10/15/2008 7:58 PM ET
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Yes, I'm quick... hehehe  I loooooooove being able to talk about this stuff openly and not get judged for it.  I was looking at titles of Lesbian erotica on Amazon.com today and I got so horny, I couldn't breathe.  LOL

And let me tell you, there are some HOT titles out there!!  I want to read some "First time sex" stuff, Gawwwd that's HOT! Whew......  hehehe

Date Posted: 10/16/2008 12:13 AM ET
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Nothing wrong with friends with benefits!! As long as there is no jealousy and no feelings, sex with no strings can be mind blowing in my opinion.

Ack. That made me sound kind of slutty. Just keep in mind, I have been with the same person for the past 2 years! :P

Date Posted: 10/16/2008 2:03 PM ET
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lol. Colleen... and i've been with my partner for 5 years this october..october 2nd to be exact

Date Posted: 10/16/2008 2:57 PM ET
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Kristi R,   Happy Anniversary!!!!!!!!!!

Date Posted: 10/16/2008 6:31 PM ET
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lol. thanks. She is the heart and soul of our happy family... despite her modesty.  i'm a lucky woman.

Date Posted: 10/27/2008 10:19 PM ET
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Before I married my husband I had sex buddies. Now my husband understands my urges to be with a woman, and he is fine if i ''hook up'' with one of my friends for a no strings attached type of thing.

Date Posted: 11/9/2008 1:33 PM ET
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I think sex buddies are totally reasonable, though not for everyone situations like these can work out great for some people. I think for some people being sex buddies is way better for them because there are so many people who need their sex but fuck things up when commitment is involved, and the thrill of doing something that's a bit forbidden makes things even hotter and keeps the chemistry alive. I am in a committed relationship and I am sooo in love, but even if I wasn't I don't think I would be able to have a close friend with whom I hooked up with. One night stands -- sure, but someone I continue to know and understand and love in the sexual way -- not for me. I get wayyy to jealous and clingy haha. But yeah, that's my two cents.
Date Posted: 11/11/2008 8:12 PM ET
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my husband and i dont think its that weird, where we are from there are alot of ''swingers'' but i hate being called that, lol. it isnt so bad if your the type of person who  can seperate ''love'' type emotions from sex and just go on pure physical lust. But I know that there aren't that many people in the world who will agree with me, o-well. lol. but hey to each their own is what i always say.

Date Posted: 11/11/2008 10:22 PM ET
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Thank you for being so honest and open about this! You girls ROCK!

Date Posted: 11/12/2008 3:14 PM ET
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No problem, I think it's so awesome that you're writing a book :) And to be honest I wish I was the person that could separate emotions from sex, because it would be so exhilarating to experience so much outside the realm of a relationship.