This is an excellent self-help book on debilitating shame and guilt, on how they are created in dysfunctional families and how they manifest themselves in our adult lives. I usually hate underlining and making notes on books but I did it with this one because I knew it was a keeper. Several descriptions fit my life to a tee, only expressed more clearly than I could have. My only complaint is that this book is light on how to *recover* from pathological shame and guilt. It basically gives you one solution: talk about your shame to someone, and then it ends. But it describes the symptoms better than any other shame book I've read so far, and recognizing where your behavior patterns originate is winning half the battle already.