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Subject: If someone asks your opinion on a book on your bookshelf, but
Date Posted: 9/30/2009 7:38 PM ET
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say you didn't really care for it. ...

Do you tell the truth and maybe lose a trade?

Or do you shine them on?

Date Posted: 9/30/2009 7:45 PM ET
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I'm pretty honest about what's on my shelf.  I think really, it should be self evident that the books are on there because I didn't like them enough to keep them, but there are plenty that I never read at all for one reason or another.

Date Posted: 9/30/2009 7:47 PM ET
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Well... I think I'd try to be honest, by trying to be clear what it was you might not have liked--everyone's different, so depending on what that person's looking for, they might really enjoy it.  You also just be general and say something like "it wasn't my cup of tea..."  Sometimes what I'm looking for is just what someone else isn't!  Good luck!

Date Posted: 9/30/2009 7:52 PM ET
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That's interesting - I am in this mode where I just want to pass most books along, sometimes especially if they are good.

But I recently offered a batch up to some buddies and everyone pounced on one title that I personally thought was a stinker and I just kept thinking "Really? That's the one you want, really?" - Since they didn't ask, I didn't offer my opinion.

Different strokes...

Date Posted: 9/30/2009 8:05 PM ET
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I tell them my opinion, just because I didn't like it dosen't mean they won't love it.

Date Posted: 9/30/2009 8:15 PM ET
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I'd tell my opinion. All books I read are on my shelf whether or not I like them. I don't keep them anymore.

Date Posted: 9/30/2009 8:18 PM ET
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If someone asks my opinion and I didn't care for the book, I'll tell them.  If they don't ask then I don't volunteer it.

If you've got the book on your PBS bookshelf, that means you didn't like it enough to keep it anyway.

Date Posted: 9/30/2009 8:56 PM ET
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I don't think I'm capable of shining on. It's the Aspie in me. :-)

I don't think you can draw conclusions about people based on their bookshelf though. I have books I loved on my bookshelf and books I've never read.

Date Posted: 9/30/2009 9:47 PM ET
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I've never been asked before.  I think I would be honest-if they cancelled then they cancelled no biggy-someone else will order the book.  There are few books that I have truly hated so I don't think it would be a problem. 

I would also honestly say if I didn't read a book.  I buy a lot of books at thrift stores and such just to post.  I've also been posting TBR books that my library has so I can move some out of here.

Date Posted: 10/1/2009 8:34 AM ET
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To be completely honest, I haven't read about 70% of the books on my shelf. Most were either on my personal shelves at home and they obviously didn't interest me enough to read them, or I've bought them at UBS/thrift shops/yard sales with the sole intent of trading them here on PBS. I am absolutely horrible about picking books that I think will be good trades here, though. Usually, I'll buy a book, post it and find that there are 400+ copies in the system already, lol.

Date Posted: 10/1/2009 9:02 AM ET
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LOL.I haven't read most of the books on my bookshelf,soooo I wouldn't really have an opinion on those.But if I've read it I'd be honest.Who knows they just might like it. :)

Date Posted: 10/1/2009 10:01 AM ET
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Everyone has different tastes.  What you might rave about I call a wallbanger.  So I just say it didn't pull me at the time I read it.

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Date Posted: 10/1/2009 12:12 PM ET
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Hah! You are so right - I DO rave about wallbangers! If you have any - pass them on!!

Date Posted: 10/1/2009 12:28 PM ET
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I've read books that I thought were real stinkers, only to turn around and see someone with tastes that are often similar to mine rave about it.  I've also pulled books off my keeper shelf & re-read them, and wondered wth I could have been thinking when I put it there:P  I think there are times when a story you might otherwise really enjoy can get on your nerves for one reason or another, and certain authors who consistently drive me batty seem to have no shortage of fans.  I think whoever said you should tell someone a book wasn't your cuppa was right.  If you can tell them why, that's good too.  But I've passed along books that I disliked and the person I gave them to ended up enjoying them, so you can never tell.  There are certain books & authors out there who just flat out stink in no uncertain terms though.  All you can do is say what you think & let everyone decide for themselves if they want to try it.

Date Posted: 10/1/2009 12:51 PM ET
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Personally, I tend to give an honest opinion.  If it was so/so, I say so.

Date Posted: 10/1/2009 2:17 PM ET
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I give honest opinions.  I write reviews on goodreads for almost every book that I read.  When I am disappointed, I say so.  I recently wrote a "disappointed" review for a very popular author (I liked the book, but it was not up to par in my opinion, so it was a 3 star review)...someone commented on how that worried her, but she read the book anyway.  She liked it more than I did although she agreed with points I made in my review.  So, my 3 stars might really be someone else's 4 stars (or 2 stars). 

Date Posted: 10/1/2009 2:33 PM ET
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Nope, I just pass it along. I am glad to be rid of it, and if I said anything , maybe that person  would miss out on a book they may have actually liked.