here is the event.

my DD is having her 2nd baby.. a boy..due june 8th by cesearean.

her first baby was a girl..so all she has is girl stuff. at her first baby shower we had over 100 people, men, women and spent an arm and a leg on food , rented a huge gymnasium with kitchen , and decorations and such.

this time i want to do it different.

i am going to reserve a small party room at a local buffet restaurant but it only sits 25 people. i am going to pay for everything.

it is a surprise for my DD and my SIL..

i need for the invitation to have these items/ requirements in it but i don't want to sound rude.

1.   limit seating... the invitation is going to be just for the person i address it to... no extra family allowed ... the room is small.

2.  present ticket when enter restaurant.... i am going to put the ticket in the invitation with the persons name on it.

3.  my DD already has all of the big ticket items ( stroller, tub, basinet, crib, walker, bouncer)..

4.  she only needs baby clothes, diapers

5.  how do i word the : come celebrate with us baby over lunch...

     or ...how do i say it ?

thanks...

1.  Make it rsvp, so when you speak with someone you can mention it casually.

2.  Tbh, I personally wouldnt go with this idea, so I don't really have any opinions on that.

3.  Have her register, put where she is registered on the invite.

4. @ number 3

Since baby showers are normally done just for the first time moms, I'd suggest having a "Sprinkle" Party instead. Invite those you want to attend to come celebrate with the mom to be as she integrates the new child into her family. Maybe come up with a theme.

"Come join us for lunch as we celebrate with a Sprinkle Party for mom and baby to be as we sprinkle them with some gifts like disposable diapers  wipes, and love."

Just keep it simple and more about celebrating the new baby than expecting any gifts.

cute idea rebecca...thanks

Yvonne, I did something small for my friend a while back for her second baby. This is when I learned from her mother that we couldn't have a baby shower for the second baby. I thought she deserved something as her pregnancy was difficult and someone suggested to me to call it a sprinkle party. We had a pretty informal get together but the small luncheone your planning sounds so nice.

I hope the party turns out great!

Where I'm from, after your first baby, instead of having a baby shower, you're given a "diaper drizzle."  I got so many diapers for my third child that I literally did not buy diapers for her for an entire year.  Calling it a diaper drizzle sort of indicates you are calling for diapers & wipes & not much else.

I had showers for all of my children (6). The first 4 were girls and by the 4th daughter I had a lot of things carried over but the style does change even with baby clothes, as well  they do wear out. The last two were boys, seven years apart and I had nothing left and was so thankful for the shower given to me.

I've known so many people within my family and our church family that have had multiple baby showers I wouldn't think is was improper at all.

This day and age so many more things are acceptable Why not have another one baby shower for your daughter!! Its a joyous occasion and a great reason to celebrate with your close invited friends and family.

calling for diapers & wipes & not much else.

thanks...... these are great ideas.. i have to hurry up and get the invitations done..

i just want to have the small get-together so that my daughter can feel happy knowing that i am celebrating her son coming into this world..

thanks for the ideas..

"Sprinkle" Party

we are going to be doing this one...

the sprinkle party is july 10.saturday. funday.