Hi,

    I have an odd situation going on lol and getting fustrated. I have had this wish list book on my list for awhile. The book FINALLY came up and I requested it. Sadly the user never responded & it was canceled. I even contacted this person before it expired it's waiting period for her to respond.

She wrote me back over a week later telling me I could still have it if I was interested. I was by ofcourse I had no credit. So I offered her a deal of 3 of my books for her book. She told me "SURE!!!" then told me she requested a book from me. I waited and waited yet saw no request come through from her.

I wrote her again about to reminder her and she wrote me telling me to send her a credit for the book since she didn't want to repost it thinking someone else would want it.

I started ALL over again at how I didn't have a creidt at the moment and reminded her again for the deal. I quoted the messages above in case she forgot or something.

She writes back that she will request it again and that exchanging one book is just fine and to send her my info. Plus again she asks for a credit.

I explain YET AGAIN at how I don't have one. I tell her to request the ONE book from and I'll send her the credit back when she gets the since we are exchanging books and not credits. I give her my address. She requests the one book, I package it and mail it. I let her know I mailed it.

She next tells me she is trying to print postage online. I guess she uses Paperback Swap for printing postage) then she says that she has ACCIDENTLY reposted the book and it is now showing in my wish list again. She AGAIN asks me to request it.

I tell her AGAIN at how i can't request it since I have no credits. I suggest that if she has a credit she can buddy it to me, I'll request it then she'll it back as soon as I get the book. Remember I have already sent her a book in exchange for this book.

I then get a message from her saying : Ok I will just send it to you and you can buddy me the credit. No problem. I will write whoever has requested it and let them know.

I'm pretty confused about what is going on here. I was thinking of asking someone to buddy me LOAN of a credit so I can just finally request this book like she wants me to and be done with it. This a book I REALLY REALLY want. The time of it runs out in 18hrs.

I am just really confused . . . what do you guys think is going on here?

What should I do? I have already mailed her a book. I am not sure if she meant that she will send the book or not since her last message made no sense. I mean how can someone else want the book when it shows up on my wish list offer as a 48hr offer? She asked me yesterday if that was me and I told her it was.

Confused

Once it timed out the first time, you went back to #1 on the WL.  If she's now reposted it, then it should be on 48 hr WL hold for you again.  She's clearly not understanding the trade book for book thing.  You're not going to have a credit until she receives the book you sent her and marks it received and by then the WL book will have gone into the system since it'll time out on you requesting it.

I'll be happy to buddy you a credit so you can request the book, seems like the most simple solution to the whole thing since the other member's a bit confused.

ETA:  You've just gotta accept my BL invite first.

You two are obviously not on the same page, I would wait until you have a credit to get the book so that you don't lose 3 books and not get another or have her get mad because she never gets a credit and complains.

I would have just bought a credit or 2 from someone when the WL offer came up or I would have used the preprinted postage to get the credit instantly when I mailed her my book. I think she's just not grasping the book for book thing. Also Melanie is right in that is not an allowable PBS trade.  To do book for book like that you both are supposed to be boxers. Although I don't think PBS will kick you out for this post.  They won't help you straighten the situation out either because it's not an official PBS deal.  Are you the only person on WL for this book?  If it times out on your end because you don't have a credit then you'll have to go back to the end of the line and her book will be offered to the next person.  If you're worried about that and you really want the book then you'll just have to buy one or see if someone will loan you one.  It kept you in 1st place the 1st time it timed out because she didn't respond. 

I don't think R&R boots people off here for making an innocent mistake - I don't think that's the spirit of this site even though some posters would like to send a lynch mob after anyone who makes a slight error. And after all, it obviously is innocent since she's posting it here.

I also wished more people gave thsse types of posts above in private e-mails. No one likes to appear chastised in public because it never ends with just ONE poster giving a "heads up" - 20 more posters have to come along and  say "yeah, so and so is right, you can't do that." Already there are two of you telling her the same thing.

And even though the other person ordered a book from her via a credit you two are jumping to conclusions that the other person isn't a boxer. Unless I missed it somewhere in her OP that she states specifically that the other person isn't a boxer?? I don't believe I did. So, she could be conducting a A PERFECTLY OK trade if both are boxers. I dunno - it's just better not to jump to conclusions.

As for the OP - I'd write it off as a learning experience. I don't think I'd want to order a book from someone who's so easily confused. I'd go buy the book or get it from the library.

 No one likes to appear chastised in public-EXACTLY, Unless I missed it somewhere -BINGO.

Melanie: You changed your first post to take out the quoted Web site guidelines and then posted the above agreeing with me. Color me confused but oh well .... I just wish there was less "policing" of the boards and less quoting the rules because the threads end up with tons of people bashing the OP. I guess it's just the nature of forums though.   

I don't think Melanie was agreeing with you Susan...I think if I'm not mistaken that ummm how shall I say this nicely...there is a hint of chastisement in your comments regarding the responses to the initial post. The initial post was asking for advisement and suggestions...

Susan, I changed my first post after the OP changed her first post and removed what I was referring to and PM'd me a thank you about letting her know. As long as her first post contained some comments, I felt that it should be followed with site rules so others reading her post knew the site's stance on it. My second post, Christy has it right, pot - meet - kettle... and you apparently DID miss what those of us that warned the OP saw.

Christy: Then she should have left her original post instead of erasing it, no? Obviously she felt something if she removed what she said - I'm assuming you didn' see it? If she was convinced she was saying the "right" thing then she would have left it instead of taking it down so no one else could see it. Most of us stand up for our convictions instead of erasing them.

And that's fine, take what I said as a chastisement. I"m not really worried about it. I'd like to prevent two pages of garbage nailing the OP on an issue that she didn't even ask about.  She did not ask about whether or not she should have offered the type of deal she offered - she asked how she should handle the immediate problem regarding the books already sent and the wishlisted book.

Problem is, too many people will jump on the band wagon and bash her for "breaking the rules" and it will be an endless thread of people quoting the rules.  Obviously you see nothing wrong with that. I do. I was trying to prevent a bash session and I could hardly do that by PM the two offending people, now could I?

Carry on .....

Edited to add: I'm not going to fight a losing battle on here. Too many people that inhabit this forum like nothing better than to play "holier than thou" and I find myself increasingly uninterested in the politics of this forum.  There are less that think like me and many more that are itching to knock someone down a peg or two. It's a shame. 

So as I said, carry on.