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Subject: Any suggestions on a tough time/topic?
Date Posted: 12/23/2007 8:21 PM ET
Member Since: 7/11/2007
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I am a counselor in a small school, and we just lost a senior in an auto accident.  The funeral is tomorrow, and I am trying to get myself together with any books, resources, etc that will help the students when we return after Christmas break?

If anyone knows or can recommend any books, sites, etc.  I would appreciate it.

Date Posted: 1/1/2008 9:20 PM ET
Member Since: 3/29/2007
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Christine, you're in my prayers. It's so hard. Remember that bus that went off the interstate last year? That was my school. I taught one of the students who died, 2 brothers and a cousin. One of the hardest things I've ever had to do was going back into the classroom the next day and teach. What shocked me was how amazingly resilient the kids were. I think in large part it was because they were all willing to talk and cry to each other openly about their loss. We had grief counselors fly in from all over the country. We still have a federal grant in operation for student counseling. I can't name a single thing that has worked -- it's been different for each person effected. I'd say the best thing you can do is just be open to their crying, ranting, screaming, and worst of all, their quiet.

Stephanie 

ETA: I should change the word "teach" there... I did NOT try to teach a formal lesson the following day. School was optional for students that day. Many came. I was simply there as a shoulder, and of course, I broke down at least once myself.



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