Okay ladies, you will either love this book or hate it. More than likely you will, at some point, want to toss this book at someone - yourself, for actually reading it (and possibly agreeing to some of the points suggested), the writer for having written it and made money in the process, or, last but not least , the husband whose fault it is why you are reading the damn book in the first place.
Warning! This is not a book for those whose husbands:
1. Are physically abusive to their wife
2. Are physically abusive to their children
3. Have an active addiction (such as drugs, alcohol, or gambling)
4. Is chronically unfaithful
One of the best features of this book is that each chapter is split into smaller sections of one to four pages. These small sections allow the reader to take the, sometimes overwhelming, information and ideas in little chunks. The ideas and suggestions are supported by examples from her own experience and that of others in her circle.
While one may not agree with the conclusions the authors draws from certain scenarios, the information is worth considering. Many of the exercises suggested would be worth trying. Not just once, because change happens over time, but several times.
This book isn't about changing oneself or changing ones husband. This book is about transforming the relationship into something satisfying and fulfilling for both the husband and the wife. But one should remember that things cannot possibly get better if no changes are made, they will only stay the same.
Amy P. (asp) reviewed The Surrendered Wife : A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion, and Peace with Your Man on + 8 more book reviews
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It is an interesting perspective . I read some passages to my husband . He is convinced that Laura Doyle is a man . It has helped me left go of a lot of responsibilities that I thought were mine . My husband hasn't exactly picked up the ball but my burden is much lighter .I probably should have read her book about dating .
Great book! The author teaches about how to practicaly give up being CONTROLLING in your marriage. Many, many women do not realize that the reason our marriages are suffering is that we have become nags and enforcers of our own opinions, thinking we know better than our husbands in every area! The book talks about how our husbands really do have brains and can even have better ideas than we do :)
Very good book, still sorting through it and learning how to fit the principles secretly into my marriage!
One of my favorite suggestions is saying, "Whatever you think," when your husband shares an idea or opinion, ESPECIALLY when you disagree. Really shows great respect for him. I'm already seeing changes in our marriage when I use that phrase. My husband feels so respected that I'm actually listening to his ideas and not shooting them down if I don't like them.
I loved that the author came from a feminist perspective. She says that she is feminist in the work place, but very feminine in her marriage--there is a time & a place for being controlling and in charge, and it doesn't work in marriage!
This book has literally changed my life. I don't agree with everything the author has to say, but her overall message is unescapable: How to love- and yes, submit to- your husband, as God intended you to. I re-read parts of this book often, for I need a lot of reminding, to be the godly wife I wish to be. By surrendering to my husband, he has been more open, loving & intimate toward me. Change yourself, and get the husband you always wanted. Sounds easy. It's work. But worth it.
I was really mad at what it said first then I realised that it was right. It is hard to be corrected. This book speaks the truth about how women should be treating their husbands. It is along the same lines as "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". This book will help your husband start to take initiative without you having to nag all of the time.