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Subject: THANKS from a caregiver
Date Posted: 5/1/2010 11:11 AM ET
Member Since: 2/9/2010
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When my dad died in 2005, my brother and I had the problem of how to take care of mom. She and dad managed ok, especially with my brother living only two blocks away. But mom alone just wouldn't work.
She has severe osteoporosis, high blood pressure and minor heart problems. She gets around with a walker, but...

    It came to be a nobrainer, my brother has a big house, I had a small condo and am single. So Wayne moved in. As time has gone by, I have had to do more and more of the "chores" that mom used to insist on doing, including going shopping alone.

    Her loves are counted cross stitch, reading (she even reads the daily paper cover to cover) and the Miami Heat. Getting books for her used to be a chore. My brother and I (I insisted he go along) would stand around in BJ's or wherever looking at the books, wondering if she had read them or if she would like them. Some I refused to buy for her, others I just didn't know. I even tried Half dot com (can I say that), but it was a chore to find a seller who had multiple books that she wanted.

    Then I got a newsletter from my ISP, they mentioned PBS; and, as they say, I was off! I gathered all her books, my books, even ones my brother was anxious to move out of his house and posted them.

    Now, she's 88 and I sit in the living room with my laptop and yell out "how about a Dick Francis book" - she says yes and I click "order" - easy and I can find new homes for all those books we have read. I even sneak in a order for some "for me".

    She loves Nora Roberts, Fern Michaels, Barbara Taylor Bradford, Mary Higgins Clark and those guys and I have been able to introduce her to James Patterson, Robert B. Parker, and lots others. It's great because if she doesn't like a book, I just re-post it right away and there is no harm done.

    Bless PaperBack Swap!


Date Posted: 7/23/2010 11:39 AM ET
Member Since: 2/25/2010
Posts: 388
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That's really wonderful.  I'm so glad that we have this site to trade books.  Makes things so much easier.