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Subject: No thanks!
Date Posted: 12/11/2011 1:57 AM ET
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Has anyone noticed that the receiver of the books we send don't say thanks very often.  Of the last 6 books I sent I got one thank you!!!! I do not know how to let paperbackswap.com know. 

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 2:07 AM ET
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I never say thank you for receiving books.  Personally, I do not like bombarded with thank you notes.  This is not something you would contact the site for.  If the book is marked received, to me...that is thanks enough for me.  There are other posts on the subject as well.  I will try to find and post link.

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 2:42 AM ET
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This topic raises hackles on both sides. People are surprisingly passionate about their preferences when it comes to the question of Thanks vs. No Thanks.

eta: I'm a Thanker 90% of the time. If the book has special meaning to me, is in surprisingly excellent condition despite age, or the transaction is exceptionally good, I'll say something to that effect and include a sincere (and sometimes effusive) thank you.

Last Edited on: 12/11/11 2:45 AM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 12/11/2011 2:48 AM ET
Member Since: 12/28/2006
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A surprisingly controversial topic.  As Kellie mentions, it's been discussed a couple times previously.  Some members strongly dislike all the thank-you's cluttering up their inbox and only want the books they've mailed to be logged in without additional thanks.  Other members expect a thank-you and become offended if not received. 

It can be tough for receivers to know what to do so as to not offend the sender...blush

So don't take it personally M, I'm sure nobody meant to make you feel bad.  There's no official (or unofficial) PBS guideline, so no point in reporting to PBS admin.

ETA - Generally, I'm also a thanker...even if it's merely a business transaction, I really appreciate the time and effort expended to wrap and mail my book heart

Last Edited on: 12/11/11 2:50 AM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 12/11/2011 2:51 AM ET
Member Since: 2/23/2008
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I don't say thank you for receiving books either.  It's not that I don't appreciate the books I receive.  It's just having to check messages that say the same thing every time, "thank you," gets to be redundant.  Those of us who have been here for awhile are happy to send out books that are wanted.  We are happy to receive books that members are willing to share. So, M. Carol T., don't take it personally. 

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 8:09 AM ET
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I don't expect a thank you when a book is received; they're nice to get but it doesn't bother me to not get one, especially if I've mailed out a lot of books around the same time. Too many PMs to open (not reading a PM is more of a no-no to me than not receiving a thank you).  The important thing is having the book marked 'received' on a timely basis.

I'm with James: I send a note when the book means a lot to me, or one I've wanted for a long time, or is in wonderful condition and/or wrapped really well.



Laura M. (LMM) - ,
Date Posted: 12/11/2011 9:47 AM ET
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Another "No thanks to thanks yous" here.

It's not as bad now, but I used to hate having to log on to PBS just to read "Thank you".

Why would you "let PBS know"?

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 9:54 AM ET
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I don't send one for every book either and prefer not to get them.  I send them when someone's given me a deal, the book looks brand new/never read, it's rarely posted and been on my WL a long time or someone posted multiple WL books to me. 

I used to send 20-30 books a week.  20-30 pms a week that say nothing more than thank you just become an inconvenience.  The credit I received is thanks enough. I don't email Amazon or Barnes and Noble to say thank you when they send me something.  I do say thank you when I'm in person.  I don't think not sending a PM here makes me rude.

I think more people would probably do the Thank You thing and not mind them if they didn't make it a PM. On bookmooch when a book comes in it's one tiny little thing to fill out: negative, neutral or positve transaction and a little comment box. The sender only has to go through special steps to see the comments if they want to see them.  If they ignore them, there isn't a red notice on the account about an undread message. I wish PBS would maybe just put the message on the transaction and not send a PM.  Then those who want a thank you can look up the transaction and those who don't, don't have to bother with it.

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 11:02 AM ET
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You'll get a lot of responses to this topic, it comes up every now and again on the boards.

When I first joined, I sent a thanks for every book.  Now, I rarely do.  Only if it's a book I've really been waiting for.  I don't care if people thank me or not, doesn't make a difference to me one way or the other.

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 12:33 PM ET
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Did you remember to thank all those people for the credits they gave you? 

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 2:04 PM ET
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When I first joined, I was thanked on 90% of the transactions so when I didn't get them, it took me a while to figure out the book has been received. Now since PBS changed the book received page, I'd say I get them less than 20% of the time so it doesn't surprise me when I don't get one.

I still thank the people who send me books though. I feel weird if I don't.

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 2:32 PM ET
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I look at it as more of a business transaction.  A credit is basically money.  Thanking is nice, but not necessary.

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 4:33 PM ET
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I always thank, but it DOES generate a lot of unnecessary PMs and emails.

esp. when you write Thanks!  and then the person writes back Youre Welcome

Mulitiply that by a few thousand a day, i wonder how many emails that generates / nudges the PBS software to generate?  LOL

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 4:33 PM ET
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Like others, I used to send Thank Yous for every book.  Now, I rarely do so.  I only send it when I have something to say either because I got the books in a deal, someone went above and beyod in sending them or some other things about the transaction inspires me to write a note.  I don't mind getting them, but I'm not offended if I don't. 

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 4:50 PM ET
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I still thank the people who send me books though. I feel weird if I don't.

I do, too. I was just raised to always say thank you, even at the end of business transactions. That said--I can definitely see how receiving 22 "thanks!" a day would get old pretty fast, so I can see why a lot of people just mark the books received and leave it at that. To each their own.


Date Posted: 12/11/2011 5:24 PM ET
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You may want to remove your email from your signature. This is a public forum that anyone, both members and non-members, can access.

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 6:45 PM ET
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You may want to remove your email from your signature.

Oh my gosh, yes!  Didn't even notice that at first!


Date Posted: 12/11/2011 9:04 PM ET
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Personally I will take the side of thank yous are nice but I certainly don't raise an eyebrow if I don't get one.  I consider it a thanks to marked my book as received and I got my credit.  To me that is enough thanks in the matter.  I usually will not send a thank you if it was just a normal swap, took a standard amount of time, book was in a good standard PBS condition...I simply mark it as received as consider that my thank you.  Now I am willing to make exceptions for certain swaps, for example I just got one from my WL that I have been dying to read for ages!  So I sent the sender a quick note to say thank you and express how long I've been looking forward to the book.  Or if I received the book extraordinarily quickly or in like new condition, then I will send a thank you as well. 

Date Posted: 12/11/2011 9:28 PM ET
Member Since: 1/21/2009
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I always say something even if it is simply "Thank you."  Sorry but that is just the way I am.  And I do appreciate getting thanks for the books I send out.  I rarely answer back unless it is to make an additional comment.

Date Posted: 12/12/2011 1:48 AM ET
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I don't bother to say thanks. I get the book; the other person gets the credit. Good enough. Also, it's less clutter in mailboxes. As for "letting Paperbackswap know," please don't waste their time.

Lisa N. (LDN) - ,
Date Posted: 12/12/2011 9:19 AM ET
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I like that PBS made it possible to see the comments in the email showing the book was marked received.  Now if there was a way to keep those comments from generating a PM except in the case of RWAP, it would be "perfect."  I read the comment, i.e., thank you, in the email so I never bother to open the PM, but I do have to go there and eventually delete them all, which is a hassle.

I almost always say thank you, but when the other person replies back with your welcome it sometimes makes me wish I hadn't said thank you since now I have a PM to go delete. 

Date Posted: 12/12/2011 9:34 AM ET
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I was taught to say Please and Thank You; so I send a brief Thank You PM.  If someone doesn't send me a Thank You PM for a book my world doesn't stop spinning.  Also I don't find it a drain on my time or a strain on my psyche to open PM's and then delete them.

As for contacting TPTB about it I wouldn't because it really isn't that big of a deal.


Date Posted: 12/12/2011 1:16 PM ET
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I don't send one for every book either and prefer not to get them.  I send them when someone's given me a deal, the book looks brand new/never read, it's rarely posted and been on my WL a long time or someone posted multiple WL books to meyes

I'm in the no thank you camp generally.  In person I say "thank you" all the time.  I even say it to my bus driver, and I think I'm one of the only ones on a bus with 50+ people.   But on PBS, I prefer not to get messages that just say "thank you" and nothing else.  I get A LOT of PMs a day due to my Tour Guide duties, and I'd rather not have those clogging my message folder.  If there's something more signficant to say, I welcome a nice PM.  But otherwise... no thanks.  So I don't send them either anymore, except in certain cases.

Date Posted: 12/12/2011 4:51 PM ET
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I never really thought about it too much & just automatically write "thank you" but I could see how some would be annoyed with that!

Date Posted: 12/12/2011 7:10 PM ET
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I generally don't say thanks unless there's a special reason.  "Thanks for sending a book in such great condition," "Wow, I got this book fast," "My kid needs this for a college class--it's great not to pay the bookstore $20 for it," etc.