I have a great husband and good marriage. I am glad I received this through PBS. Otherwise I wouldn't have bought it for money. Basically the author lays the blame for infidelity in a marriage at the feet of the betrayed spouse, which in this book is the wife. Did you not give him enough emotional attention? Did you focus too hard on your career or the children? Perhaps you just didn't think sex was important? Did you fail to give enough admiration and attention? Have you neglected to take care of your appearance?
I think those are all legitimate reasons why a marriage crumbles and we should all remember to not take our spouses for granted, but the overall tone of this book is to make the spouse being cheated on do all the heavy lifting and hard work of shoring up the marriage. It just didn't sit right with me. What about the needs and wants of the betrayed spouse? They didn't stray despite not having their desires met. Regardless of how bad a marriage is, the cheater has a choice. Infidelity is ultimately a choice by the cheater. The burden of keeping someone from straying shouldn't be on the other spouse.
I think those are all legitimate reasons why a marriage crumbles and we should all remember to not take our spouses for granted, but the overall tone of this book is to make the spouse being cheated on do all the heavy lifting and hard work of shoring up the marriage. It just didn't sit right with me. What about the needs and wants of the betrayed spouse? They didn't stray despite not having their desires met. Regardless of how bad a marriage is, the cheater has a choice. Infidelity is ultimately a choice by the cheater. The burden of keeping someone from straying shouldn't be on the other spouse.
