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Subject: Can you unfriend someone here?
Date Posted: 2/26/2012 6:57 PM ET
Member Since: 4/28/2009
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I seem to have lost a friend who just asked me to friend her a few months ago.  Should I not have gotten some kind of notice if a friend was deleted from my list?

Date Posted: 2/26/2012 7:47 PM ET
Member Since: 1/21/2009
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No, no notice is sent.  I had a member drop me once.  Sometimes though I have had some get dropped by acccident.  You could always PM the person and ask.  Or their account might be closed now or suspended.  Just a thought.

Date Posted: 2/26/2012 11:06 PM ET
Member Since: 8/10/2005
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I used to just accept every friend request that came along even if I didn't know them and had no message indicating why the person wanted to be my friend. The friend list got longer and longer and harder to manage, and then suddenly I was getting tons of requests when I got the Gold Key thing, and decided enough was enough...I declined all the new requests (unless it was someone I actually knew) and also deleted about half my existing list because I had no idea who they were. I didn't send any sort of message...some of those folks had been on my list for years and I never did know why. LOL


Date Posted: 2/26/2012 11:20 PM ET
Member Since: 9/22/2010
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Yeah, if someone wants to friend you, it would be nice if they told you why. I recently had such an offer, but when I looked at the person's bookshelf I had no idea why I was asked. Their concept of reading material was so far different than my own, it staggered me.

I actually asked another person why  she wanted to be my friend and I was told it was because I lived in the same state. Hey, there are people who live in my neighborhood that I don't even talk to.  I guess some people just like having a lot of 'friends.'

This reminds me of the cartoon of a woman leaning over her husband's shoulder as he sat in front of his computer.  She asked, "How come you have 278 friends on Facebook, but none in real life?" 

Date Posted: 2/27/2012 6:13 PM ET
Member Since: 4/28/2009
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Thanks for the ideas.  I will PM her since earlier this month she posted in the Raok forum that she was looking for other gold key members to be her friend-- she probably got dropped off my list due to a glitch.

I do NOT have friend requests set to automatic. I have a standard paragraph I send out to people I don't know who request me as a friend.  My "friends" here should expect periodic PMs from me.  I do not friend people simply because we share book interests.  This is the only social network I participate in and I am definitely not into the "who has the most friends" competition.  In fact, as a MH professional, I am anti- virtual addiction and find FB to have lots of negative impact upon our young people. 

Date Posted: 2/27/2012 7:28 PM ET
Member Since: 4/25/2007
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I just set my Friends list to automatically accept.  I don't even look at it.  If someone wants to friend me, I don't care why.  If they unfriend me, I would probably never notice.