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Subject: What would you do?
Date Posted: 7/24/2009 12:54 PM ET
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I got a request and when I went to print the label, I noticed that the person lives just a few miles away.  So I PMd them to see if it would be OK to drop off the book personally.
My thinking is that they would receive the book much quicker and I would save on postage. I’ve yet to get a response.
Is this cheeky? Smart? Practical?
Have you ever had a similar request?

Is there a PBS etiquette for this?

Curious as to other swappers thoughts

Date Posted: 7/24/2009 12:56 PM ET
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I've done that with someone who lived in the same town.  I printed off the label and put it in an envelope, but left it inside their storm door.  It worked out great.  It's not as if you don't have their address already (although some people are worried about privacy).  I'd say if you don't hear from the person by the time you're ready to mail the book, then just mail it, and if you do hear from them after, just let them know that as you didn't hear you just mailed it.  Pat

Date Posted: 7/24/2009 1:15 PM ET
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Unless they get back to you, I would just mail it.  They might not have time to meet you to accept it in person and if you just leave it at their door, there's a chance something could happen to it. 

Date Posted: 7/24/2009 1:17 PM ET
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What Michelle said.  Not everyone is comfortable with personal deliveries.



Date Posted: 7/24/2009 1:44 PM ET
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You could offer to just wrap it up in a plastic bag and leave it on their doorstep if they are not comfortable meeting you in person.  That way, it's just like getting a book in the mail.

Date Posted: 7/24/2009 1:44 PM ET
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You can always agree to meet in a public spot rather then going to their house.. I dont see it as anything rude or cheeky, just a nice way to get the book to the other person quickly.

Date Posted: 7/24/2009 1:53 PM ET
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Since many people join PBS as a way to save money, I think many swappers would understand you wanting to save on postage.  I think a PM asking if you can drop it off at their address is entirely acceptable.

Date Posted: 7/24/2009 2:16 PM ET
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There is another member in my town that I've done this with before, she had a book for me and PM'd and dropped it off where I work.  Saved her money and I didn't have to wait on the book.  With the way the economy is now saving money is smart.

Date Posted: 7/24/2009 2:59 PM ET
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I think you have gotten great advise.  I personally would send a PM - but I would also meet in a public place - I would not go to their house unless a friendship developed over time.  You sort of don't know what you could be walking into!

Date Posted: 7/24/2009 3:24 PM ET
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Thanks for all your comments and suggestions.

My plan was what Lisa D suggested - it's already wrapped, so just leave it at their door. 

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Date Posted: 7/25/2009 3:01 AM ET
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I had this happen from both sides. One sender offered to give me the book (for no credits) if I drove across town & picked it up. It was on my wishlist, so I went. Another time, I noticed a requester was in town & PMed to offer to bring the book to her at a place of her choosing; she said she was too busy to do that, so I mailed it.

I did think about dropping it off at her house anyway, since I had the address on the mailing label, but I did not want to freak her out (and/or not get my credit - grin!), so I mailed it.

I think part of this is a gender thing -- women are less likely to want a strange man meeting them than men are. If you are a woman, go ahead and PM them.


Date Posted: 7/25/2009 7:01 AM ET
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I don't mind strange men (hell, I'm married to one! LOL) but for me it would likely be more hassle to deliver or accept in person, and leaving a package on my doorstep wouldn't be possible since I live in a security apartment building.

When I've mailed to people in the same general area (Minneapolis/St Paul and surrounding suburbs)  they often get the book the next day in the mail so it's not much of a time saver. With the price of gas what it is and time at a premium for me--setting up the delivery time, finding their house or where they've chosen to meet, etc--they'd have to be almost next door before I'd even really feel like it was a big money saver to deliver in person.



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Date Posted: 7/25/2009 7:51 AM ET
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I have one person who lives really close and we found out where each of us lives - I sent her a book so I saw her addy and when she received it she saw mine.  We now meet at the post office to exchange books.  It's convient for both of us.  We;re going to be there anyway.  It's just a matter of setting a good time for us.

Date Posted: 7/25/2009 11:58 AM ET
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" ...We now meet at the post office to exchange books..."  nice solution Geri :-)

Date Posted: 7/25/2009 12:17 PM ET
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I've dropped off 2, after PM'ing and confirming the details. Both members were very glad to get the book so quickly!

Date Posted: 7/25/2009 12:57 PM ET
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I'm with Spuddie on this one. I'd just mail it out.  With gas prices and the time involved-I'd rather just pop it in the mail or maybe PM them to meet me somewhere convenient. If you get there there's not good place to leave the book then you've wasted that time.   I think I would be creeped out if I came home to find books I ordered on my doorstep that had been hand delivered.  Also I have no covered porch. So if someone left a book on my front porch for me and it rained I'd be ticked of if the book was ruined.

Date Posted: 7/26/2009 10:12 PM ET
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Date Posted: 7/26/2009 10:44 PM ET
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I have meet folks at the library or PO.  And I have dropped books off at the place where one member works.  But you have to remember that some folks have good reason to be careful with their address.  There is at least one member who has left a domestic abuse situation and does not give out her home address.  Her books go to her PO Box.  Dropping a book off in a case like that could be very threatening.  And a member did.  Very scary.

And folks have different time factors.  There are working mothers who have no available time as well as retirees with lots of time.  It can be very awkward when one person wants to socialize and the other doesn't.  I definitely recommenmd a PM with a time limit, with a plan to mail if there is no response.  Some of us want to talk books and post on forums.  Some don't.

Date Posted: 7/26/2009 11:29 PM ET
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Rarely does this happen to me, but If someone lives within 10 miles of me, and they have a mailbox, I drive it to their mailbox. If it's an apartment, I mail it no matter what since those boxes usually require keys.

Date Posted: 7/27/2009 12:57 AM ET
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I would love it if you brought the book to me or met me somewhere rather than waiting on the PO!

Date Posted: 7/27/2009 2:37 AM ET
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Occasionally I have recognized a town near me where a PBS member lives, and then PM'd them just to say Hello.  Our taste in books was very different, but it was just fun to know a member was nearby, rather than across the country.    :)    D. 

Date Posted: 7/27/2009 5:45 AM ET
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I had someone PM me and offer to drop the books off on the way to work, She had my address anyways so I said ok and my hubby was thrilled to get the books so quickly