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Subject: What should I do?
Date Posted: 10/17/2007 6:36 PM ET
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I posted a book that is wishlisted by three people.  It was accepted by the first member, but she had conditions.  She stated she does not want a book with smoke or pet odors.  My book was purchased used and I have a dog in the house.  But the book doesn't smell like anything, but a book to me.  My dog doesn't get on my books or anything and I don't smoke, but I cannot guarantee 100% that the book has never been around smoke or other animals.  I went ahead and stated that the book met the requestors conditions, but pm'd her to make sure she understood the facts about the book and gave her the option of telling me that she doesn't want the book and then I am willing to cancel the request so that she doesn't lose her place in the wishlist line.

But I have not heard back from her...so do I mail the book or cancel?  If I do cancel how do I offer the book to the next person in line without having to go through this requestor again since she will remain the first in line?  I really don't know what I should do now?  Anyone who can tell me?!

 

Date Posted: 10/17/2007 6:44 PM ET
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See this is exactly why I decline these type of things. I have a dog too. My books don't smell like dog to me but to someone else it might.  Not sure how to advise you.  How long since you PM'd her?  I would give her a day or 2 and then mail the book.  You warned them.  That's about all you can do. If you cancel the request and then repost it, it will get offered to the same person. Then you could cancel because of the conditions and let it go to the next person.  I'm not sure if you're allowed to do this or not.

Date Posted: 10/17/2007 6:52 PM ET
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I seriously considered putting that it did not meet the conditions, but I believe these ppl have been waiting for quite some time for this book so I decided since it did meet the conditions in my mind that it would be okay, but then I decided to send the pm.  So now I know I will risk her marking the book as received with a problem, but I hate to not send it if she would be pleased with it because she will get bypassed and probably wait a lot longer for the book. 

Date Posted: 10/17/2007 7:29 PM ET
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I have conditions about smoke smell on books.  I didn't for the longest time until I recd one that was too overpowering for me. 

I wouldn't have a problem with the book that you're sending.  If you're not a smoker and you don't smell smoke on the book, it should be fine. 

jackie

Date Posted: 10/17/2007 7:44 PM ET
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Last Edited on: 9/18/13 3:50 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 10/17/2007 8:18 PM ET
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With a person who has conditions, if I'm not sure that the book meets the conditions or if the conditions are worded very vaguely, I decline the request. If my book meets the conditions, I'll accept, even if the conditions are very stringent.

With regard to anyone who has no conditions,  I don't send any PMs. Any book I list is going to meet PBS posting guidelines  so I'm certainly not going to get a book request for a book that's been sitting on my shelf for six months or a year, PM them about every little thing that is perfectly normal for a used book, wait to hear back from them and then cancel if they don't answer, and lose my spot in the FIFO line so I can wait another six months to a year for someone else to request it! If anyone wants books with a condition above and beyond the PBS posting guidelines, it's *their* responsibility to make that known with conditions. If they don't...well, sorry, but tough noogies!

I think we make this waaaaaaay more complicated than it needs to be sometimes.

Cheryl

Date Posted: 10/17/2007 8:46 PM ET
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Last Edited on: 9/18/13 4:59 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 10/17/2007 10:08 PM ET
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THAT is exactly why for the most part I am NOT willing to PM anyone about a book I'm sending.   If they don't answer, then YOU are in limbo.   My book either meets the conditions or it doesn't.  I make the judgement and that way there is no holdup on the book.  MOST of the time my book meets the conditions - if it doesn't, I have no problem not accepting the request.

Date Posted: 10/17/2007 10:33 PM ET
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I ditto Cozette: the PMing thing just sets you up for waiting on the other person.  Some people only check their account once or twice a week.  If you reject the deal because of conditions before you accept then you retain your place in the FIFO line. If you cancel after accepting then you lose your place.

Date Posted: 10/17/2007 11:26 PM ET
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As long as the dog hasn't chewed on it, played with it, drooled on it, taken naps on it or has done other worse things on it, why wouldn't you send it?  I think it's pretty clear, myself.  Book smells like wet dog?  Ummm, no thank you.  Rover sat by your feet while you read it?  My turn, please!

 

Date Posted: 10/17/2007 11:43 PM ET
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We have two dogs, but t hey aren't anywhere near the books-unless they are sleeping on my foot, next to the plastic bins the books are in.

Date Posted: 10/18/2007 10:09 PM ET
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In a case where someone asks not to receive a book that pertains to allergies, such as no smoke, no dogs, or cats, unless they give you some leeway such as ,  "if you don't smoke and can't smell it", "if your cat doesn't lay on your lap while you read" you aren't doing them or yourself any favors by deciding to send the book to them "because they've waited so long" If they can't read the book because there is a cat in your house, and they are very allergic to cats, and you accidentally laid it where the cat scratched, that book is not only going to probably irritate their allergies, but also likely go in the trash.

People put requestor's conditions on their for a reason. Either they don't want something or they give you some indication that you have some leeway, or you don't send the book. Now, that's just my opinion, but it sure seems better to abide by their wishes, than to guess that a little bit won't hurt when they said NO pet odors. She didn't say, if it doesn't smell like pets to you. You have the pet, you are immune to it by now ;)   Just thinking in print here :)

Date Posted: 10/19/2007 12:13 PM ET
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I have a dog too and I would have declined her condition even though my dog isn't really around my books alot. She put it there knowing that people with dogs would decline her condition and expects them to do so, just like I have a smoking condition and would expect someone who smokes in their home to decline it. 

How long since you sent the pm? Since you did send it, I'd give her some time to respond. Perhaps send a second that says something like "let me know if you want the book by this evening. Otherwise I will cancel the order." She's not going to want to cancel if it was a wishlist book b/c she'll lose her place in the fifo, but if you cancel, then repost it you can decline the conditions and she'll still be first in line for the next one.



Last Edited on: 10/19/07 12:27 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 10/19/2007 1:33 PM ET
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I have a dog, and I would have declined it as not meeting conditions.  She's still at the top of the wish list for the next copy, and the book can go to someone who doesn't have a problem with it. 

You don't really do anyone a favor by sending them a book that they may have an allergic reaction to.

Date Posted: 10/19/2007 1:39 PM ET
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This is why I won't PM regarding conditions, and if I'm in doubt, I'll decline the request.

Since it is a WL book, I'd cancel the order, re-post the book, and then choose "Does not meet conditions" so that I could move on to the next person. You have a dog. The requestor does not want pet odors. Just like smokers don't notice smoke smell, pet owners often don't notice pet smells. Seems to me that this would be the best option since you have not heard from the requestor.