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Subject: when PM doesnt get answered 2
Date Posted: 6/3/2011 9:16 PM ET
Member Since: 1/20/2011
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iam looking for a series in romance books.i found a member that has a bunch of the books.here is the trouble.i contacted her with a deal, since i didnt have enough credits for each book.she PM ed me she was moving,wait a little.i waited.contacted her again.she has to think about it.no return PM. i wait again.i contact her again and still no answer.if she doesnt want to make a deal with me, just tell me,dont leave me hanging.i find it kind of rude.am i right?  conny                      i guess i didnt explain myself clearly enough.she told me she was moving,i waited until after the move and thats when she said she had to think about it,and never returned my pm.

Last Edited on: 6/3/11 9:49 PM ET - Total times edited: 1
Date Posted: 6/3/2011 9:31 PM ET
Member Since: 2/5/2007
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In my opinion, no you aren't right.   You asked for a deal - she didn't offer one.  She has NO obligation to contact you again.   I wouldn't mind you asking for a deal but I wouldn't like it if you kept after me about it.  

Date Posted: 6/3/2011 9:32 PM ET
Member Since: 10/23/2005
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I think that if someone is in the middle of a move, they may be too busy with stuff to want to worry about giving a deal on books.

If you would really like these books without having to spend a credit on each one, consider joining the BoxOBooks program. In that way you can find books you would like to read, and not have to worry about having a lot of credits.

Here is the page that describes BoxOBooks:


Date Posted: 6/3/2011 11:07 PM ET
Member Since: 8/23/2007
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I agree.  You made first contact and should be annoyed/upset or think she's rude for not responding to your last PM when you know she recently moved.  It's possible that she didn't respond because she didn't want to be rude. If she felt pressured or annoyed she may have decided that no response was better than the rude one she might have been tempted to send.

Let it go and move on.  She has no obligation to negotiate a deal with you or even respond. It would be different if she had  deal offer somewhere. But if you contacted out of the blue then she has every right to ignore your PM if she wants.

I would put a post in the Book Bazaar with that you are looking for and ask if anyone is willing to make a deal on them.


Date Posted: 6/3/2011 11:41 PM ET
Member Since: 8/16/2007
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It sounds like she did give you an answer when she said she'd have to think about it. If she decides to give you a deal she will let you know. It would probably be easier if she just answered and told you no, but she may just be trying to avoid getting into an argument with you if you won't take no for an answer. A request for a deal, IMO, should be sent and then just leave it at that, if they want to deal they will let you know, if they don't answer it means they don't want to.