Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life
Boundaries When to Say Yes When to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Author:Dr. Henry Cloud, Dr. John Townsend Is your life out of control? Do people take advantage of you? Do you have trouble saying no? Are you disappointed with God because of unanswered prayers? — Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries defin... more »e who we are and who we are not.
Boundaries impact all areas of our lives:
Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances.
Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our thoughts and opinions.
Emotional boundaries help us deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others.
Spiritual boundaries help us distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator.
Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask:
Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
What are legitimate boundaries?
What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy or money?
Aren't boundaries selfish?
Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
Way way way too religious for my tastes. Good ideas, but I really didn't need a Biblical quote every other paragraph. I just couldn't get past it and did not finish reading. I did not plan on a sermon when I got this book.
Tina G. (santatina) reviewed Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life on
Helpful Score: 3
I was fascinated by the accuracy of the description of the problems I encounter when saying "NO' to things I didn't really want to say yes to. I was even more eager to finish the book, because I thought I had finally found the solution and insight on how to "cure" or fix my inability to say No at times. Needless to say I was very disapointed. This book is great in determining the problem, but in my view, it lacks the "solution" to the problem. It is often referred to as "find a support group", "talk to your support group"... I had much preferred the author was as "explicit" in the answer to the problem, as he was in the description of it. Three stars!
Angie N. reviewed Boundaries: When to Say Yes, When to Say No, To Take Control of Your Life on
This is the kind of book you need to read multiple times - not because it's hard to follow, but quite the contrary. It makes so much sense and provides awesome techniques in terms of boundaries that rereading it will help instill the practice of boundaries even further. It discusses the different ways people try to manipulate you and overstep your boundaries in multiple arenas (i.e. family, relationships, work environment, etc.) and also ways to handle these situations.
It is a must read for everyone who has experienced issues in their relationships... so basically everyone would benefit from this well written, practical book!